how to retain intimacy in the house with teens

[ilovearnold]

Ist off - we have no family support - dh family live a long long way away and my parent is disabled and would not manage.Our earlly teens stay up as late as us nearly and if go to bed are still awake when i go- i need lot sleep and go to bed early...
How on earth does anyone manage to still have sex!!Or private conversations for that matter- nothing earth shattering - just private. Yes they go out but often one out one in - eg this am took dd to her sport.dd in rest of day- ds happened to be out but local and in and out all the time.
.We tried to arrange a sleep over at two seperate houses once as they are dd and ds and have seperate friends, but one fell thro so we did not get a night..I could ask a friend to help out once a year but i dont think that wd solve the issue..i sort of miss my dh - but love my dc s dearly ...xx

The DDs know the facts of life, I'm sure they hear us and smile ( I could hear my parents and used to ask if they're had fun, Dad would and Mum would go a little pink. Not that she really does embarrassed, she used to bring DH and I breakfast in bed, when he wasn't DH)
DD2 is 10 so she's asleep by 9.30/10 but DD1 Is 13 and she does have to be told, room, computer,DVD, book - we want some peace.
Private conversations tend to happen in the study, which in the extension and difficult to over hear from up stairs.
The odd pub lunch and catch up with work in the evening works wonders for Xmas planning etc

me and my sis used to lay awake many a night listening to my dad and step mum at it during the nights we stayed round. it was cringy but other than have a little giggle between my sister and myself, it was never mentioned.

The worst time of all though was on a caravan holiday when me and my sis were about 13 and 14, and one night the caravan was literally rocking side to side as well as the sounds from the other room. that was the only night my dad ever brought it up. He came into our room shortly after - i pretended to be asleep but my sis stupidly made it obvious she was wide awake. My dad casually asked me the next day whilst swimming in the sea if she has said anything to me about 'last night' but i pleaded ignorance to the whole thing... far to embarassed!!