unhappy relationship, so depressed!

[lovesun]

I have been with my oh 3 years, things used to be so good between us, but there has been so much trouble over the last few months and he just goes into his own little world I can't cope anymore.

We don't do anything together anymore, I seem to do everything from cooking, cleaning looking after children, garden,shopping, support him with his problems and issues, sacrificed alot of things. I just don't feel I get anything back, I've tried talking to him but he is just so bad at communicating I get nowhere! The main problem before was we never got any time together due to problems with his teenage dd from another relationship, lately though there has been time for us, but he just disappears at these times and I end up sitting on my own, watching tv or being on the internet. I bored to tell you the truth, and feel totally un loved and like I'm dealing with a closed book, its so frustrating. I think he's quite happy to be in his own little world, but well I don't feel thats fair on me! I've been determined to make this work for the childrens sake, but I just don't know what else to do? I have asked him to leave once before, but he got nasty said some horrible things, so now I just feel trapped, its wearing me down and I need help !!!!

Maybe fastweb lol! Worth a try!

He's now gone to post something work related. Now it might be me, but if I had the conversation we had this morning and I really wanted to make it work with my partner, I would be so devestated and I would try and save it and leave anything till I had spoken to them, not carry on doing things and think oh well speak to her later, am I right????

am I right????

Yes.

But I am not sure he places how you feel as a high priority when it comes to whether the relationship goes forward and in what form. He seems very firmly in the camp of believing that as long as things are working well enough for him, then they are working full stop and they will go on.

The git face.

This man thinks women exist for men's benefits, and that you will happily spend the rest of your life as his servant because you don't want to be single. He's wrong, but he won't change so get rid. If he won't leave when told to, don't waste time trying to keep it civil, get a lawyer and put it in writing that he is to leave the house. IF he does get aggressive, call the police and they will put him out of the house for you.