Last weekend I discovered that my husband was having another affair and told him that I could not go on like this and wanted to end our marriage. We have been together for 26 years and have three children (23, 21 & 19). I am absolutely devastated, my emotions and braincells are all over the place and I'm struggling just to hold myself together enough to function.
We had the discussion last Sunday and I mentioned in passing that, not wanting to be acrimonious, a simple straightforward split of things would probably be the way to go eventually. An estate agent valued our house on Wednesday and by Thursday lunch time my husband texted me to say that the bank would "lend him £85k to buy me out". Since then he has been putting pressure on me to accept this, saying that he is going in to the bank on the 8th July and will have the money in his account the next day!
Now this is where I would really value your opinions! Our home is mortgage free meaning we've had nothing to do with the mortgage industry for the past couple of decades. BUT I can't believe he can walk into his bank when he has not had any of his wages paid into his accounts for the past ten years, with an income of £26k last year and they would happily just loan him £85,000. It may not be a coincidence that my father in law is a comparatively wealthy man.
I am totally unsure of my emotions and whether I am just being nasty and cynical or whether my bull $%^& monitor is justified in going off!
Thank you for your advice, etc.