I will try to keep this short but I really need some support and reassurance.
My husband left me after a long marriage, shortly after the birth of our first child, to be with someone else. It was a horrendous time. Dd is now 5 and I am proud of the way she has turned out. My ex-husband really hurt me and did some terrible things after he left but I have always tried to maintain a good relationship with him, particularly that he has helped out financially, etc.
The problem is that as an ex-wife is feel that I am always in the wrong and I feel like it's some sort of life long prison sentence. For example, today dd came back after staying with her father for the night, and he started complaining that she is too loud and that she needs to talk in a quieter voice, etc. Dd is very lively and when she is excited she does talk loudly and can scream a bit, but normally she is fine - just a normal 5 year old. I suspect that his new wife must have complained about, as he has younger children with her. When I questioned it, he started saying that "everyone" agrees with him.
I feel that no matter how hard I try my existence and dd will always trigger conflict.
What should I do? Just ignore comments like this, rather than trying to discuss it?
I am still trying to come to terms with the way my life has turned out -and this kind of thing makes it so much harder.