Have had a browse online for advice on this particular issue but to no avail, so thought I'd see what light MN can shed on it.
DH LOVES getting blow jobs, but I HATE giving them.
Recently, every time we've started having proper sex (by which I mean lots of foreplay, I get to come, rather than the quick shag variety) he asks for a BJ. This kills my buzz, because I feel under pressure.
He says
- he feels he has to beg in order to get one
- that he has to work really hard to get one.
- if he doesn't ask, he doesn't get.
- We need to find middle ground.
I say
- he gets to come every time we have sex, and I don't (which BTW I'm actually OK with).
- I have to be feeling really really sexy to want to do it, which may explain why he asks when he does.
- he doesn't get them very often, a few times a year, but he DOES get them, admittedly with flavoured condoms because otherwise I just can't do it.
- I agree we need middle ground, but not really sure what that would mean in reality.
Any ideas? Any help much appreciated.