Can I ask some questions about getting to a refuge please?

[BlueViolet]

I have so many questions I don't know where to begin

Would they find me a place in a refuge at very shortnotice? So if I left tomorrow and then phoned them would they be able to accommodate us?

If I literally only have the clothes that dc and I are wearing would they provide us with some clothes?

Same question for stuff like bottle, dummies etc

Would they be able to pick us up?

How long do they let you stay?

Would really appreciate any advice at all.

Many thanks x

BlueViolet, my DC was only a baby when I was at the refuge, but they had a children's worker and they had an in-house creche where they ran morning sessions for pre school children. Women who had older children enrolled them at the local school which had good links with the refuge.

You will have to send them to the local school. It was fine when we did it.

Do you have any forces connections?

keep safe x

Sometimes people use their children's school as a safe place to keep a bag and escape fund until they are ready to go.

No Tiffany we don't.

Timeforme, thank you, I'll have a read of your thread

I'd rather they went to a new school so dh doesn't know where we are. It's good that they will help sort it all out, really want to keep an element of normality about the dc's lives.

Best of luck blueviolet, will be thinking of you.

Have a friend who has such a happy life now after escaping top a refuge and getting help rebuilding their lives. Some fantastic people are out there now waiting to help you.

Sorry no advice, though if we /I could do anything let us know.

I was in a refuge for a year with 4dc. Can't tell you how better off we are!! Good luck

Thank you applepie, glad your friend escaped x

Thank you Tiffany, you're so brave to have gotten away. I gain strength from reading about how others have managed to get away.

Thanks Verity, not quite the right area but the offer is much appreciated.

Just wanted to say - You can do it!
And just as others have said - I'm in east Midlands if there's anything i can do

My stepdad owns a storage company & I run a re-cycling scheme for all the unwanted goods that come out of the storage units, phoning round local refuges & hostles to find people who need them. There are schemes like this up and down the country, I know that certain clothing companies donate their samples to hostles as well, so there's usually a basic supply of clothes to keep you going x