Dating...confused!

[WillIEverBeASizeTen]

This is the story...

Chatted to a guy from a dating site back in Nov last year. We chatted for about 6 weeks, met up once and enjoyed the evening. I didn't find him physically attractive but enjoyed his personality. He was full on with texts and phone calls and I always find that insincere, anyhow he asked for another date and TBH I didn't really fancy him so we lost contact.

Fast forward 5 months...I found during this time without contact that I quite missed him and thought I'd text him, genuinely to see how he was doing. He text me straight back saying how pleased he was to hear from me. The following day he text and asked if he could call, we chatted and the week continued the same (text/calls).

He then asks me out for dinner "anywhere you want to go, your choice" So, London it was, a lovely evening, got on great (still don't fancy him) enjoy his company. Text him when I got home to say thanks for a lovely evening.

Following morning, nice text saying what a lovely evening he had and looked forward to seeing me again. That was 3 weeks ago. Have spoken to him once and I text him twice (a week apart). Have heard nothing for 2 weeks, and don't intend to contact as I have sent the last 2 texts.

Is he a player? Am I right to stop contacting?

Lorenz A lying shit who changed his mind and met someone else

That's it folks...

Maybe this proves you liked him more than you thought you did otherwise you wouldn't be so bothered that he hadn't been in touch

WillI could this possibly be a case of 'I don't really want him but I don't want him to stop wanting me' hmm?

Maybe you need to move on- it sounds as if you wanted to call all the shots- on your terms- waiting to see how you felt etc- and when the rug's pulled from under your feet by his actions not going according to your plan, you don't like it.

No SJ don't call shots,never had a plan don't do terms either...

I am neither bitter nor have sour grapes or any of those feelings that can be equated with rejection (before anyone pounces on that one!) I just wondered how a person can say one thing and do another.

The reason I started this thread was to get other perspectives rather than seeing it only from my point of view NOT to be deemed as being an utterly selfish conniving cow that has a Modus Operandi. Many solid relationships have been built without the initial flush of lust haven't they? I see nothing wrong in enjoying a mans company without being attracted to him at first. I have been attracted to men I have worked with purely on their personality alone.

He's met someone else. He made you no promises of an exclusive relationship and he owes you nothing - you only had 2 dates with him and the fact that he met someone else doesn't mean you are undesirable and will never date again. THis is just something that happens during the early stages of dating, and you were not that bothered about him anyway, so just shrug and move on.

another Stop making stupid and personal remarks.

considering I have said the same as most people here, i don't know why you posted that.

AM92 I think it's not meant to be, however, I did enjoy his company, hence the reason I got back in touch with him. Thanks for the good luck :)

SJ AM92 has a point...read your posts, it's not always what you say but how you say it

If it's any consolation AM92, I agreed with your deleted post and with what you say now.

AM92 Absolutely pathetic...it certainly didn't warrant deleting

Anyways, thanks for the post, and you're right, it's support and advice/perspectives that most people really look for..it's office politics here sometimes..