So...ideas for getting your power back

[Trestired]

Hello...just loking for some ideas.

So, you've been on maternity leave. You've been responsible for running the house, bringing up the baby.It isn't a life of glamour. Looking good is a bit of an effort. You feel like your OH has all the power...the upper hand. How do you get your power back?

Why would your DH have all the power? Sorry, I just don't understand your question.

I think if you relinquish it when you're on maternity leave you're fucked, basically.

Wish I'd known then what I know now

All you women who haven't had maternity leave yet i've got a tip for you

maternity leave is for looking after your baby - not for doing your partners share of the unpaid work just because you're at home

once you start doing it, it never goes back to how it was before, men like it too much, so just don't do it in the first place.

I don't see relationships as being about power. A relatonship should be about support... and the balance and levels of the giving and taking of that support (emotional, financial, practical, intellectual) will fluctuate depending on circumstances prevailing.

Well I know that relationships shouldn't be about poweretc but whilst on maternity, i do housework, sometimes find it difficult to go out etc... Having a child hasn't impacted the same way on other half. Was just trying to think of ideas to show I'm still brilliant...not just a boring HW..mother...cleaner.

There is usually a beige box in the cupboard under the stairs - that is often where the problem is.

HTH

(grin0 at Jeff, think thats where the only power is in our house.

That should have been obviously