garlicnutter
Well, as I say, I've just begun reading but it is about learning to accept the sides of ourselves that we not only don't like but often don't acknowledge.
So, I might think I am really patient (I do actually!) and be irritated by impatient people. This indicates that I am perhaps embarrassed about the fact that I too am impatient and that also I draw myself towards impatient people as a sort of catharsis for my own banishing of that aspect of me.
It's a simple idea but complex to explain.
The author says we all have the world in us and thus every human emotion and the capability to be any of the people we may judge or despise, from killers to rapists is in us. If we accept that then we are not affected by the way people are so much.
She also says there is a flip side to every negative which turns it into a positive. What does an impatient person person possess - the ability to get things happening perhaps?
Apparently, once we own the trait we perceive as negative we can benefit from its advantages by moderating that aspect of ourselves rather than denying it.