Grown up support needed,please

[piranhamorgana]

Sorry if I am attention seeking.I started another thread last night but have had no posts,so thought maybe it's the title putting people off?
I will cut and paste what I put there...

piranhamorgana Tue 21-Jun-11 21:36:57
Hope it's ok to start my own support thread.....
I have finally- (original post was January) - had an offer on my house -( the de-cluttered version of the one on my profile pics.!)

So,with luck,we are aiming to move during August.I am off to look for a house tomorrow,in a smallish town which is 20 miles from a Big City .
This will mean :-

• xp,babydd's "dad" will never know where we are.(He has never made contact,and there is a court order ready if he tries)
• We will be in a home and an area with no bad memories
• We will be on a main train line to city life
• There will be job opportunities (I will have to commute an hour each way back here until I check these out ,so it will be harder until I find something)
• We will be able to walk/cycle into town ,where we will be anonymous as we look around shops or visit the > gasp < Arts Centre or Museum

-We will all make new friends - the dc are anxious about changing schools again,but know they have done it before and will survive -We will de-clutter - I have lost 30k on this sale so far,and will not be able to afford much,so we will be pinched for space,but are trying to see this as an opportunity for a simple life -The older dc will be able to bus and train and cycle to loads of places -We will be part of a multi-cultural community again

whisper

Last time we moved, our chain broke, but very quickly we had a new buyer and a much better chain. So I'm hoping for you.

Its shit isnt it , im going through something similar at my end and i know how stressfull it is . Yesterday morning it had all gone wrong then an hour later it was all back on again , only to go wrong all over again . I swear ive aged 20 years . I tell my dcs that it will all be ok and they trust me completeley . Only it might not be ok and we might end up in deep shit . I wear a brave face but often crumble when no ones about and feel like a little kid . My dog also loves to roll in shit and yesterday it was final straw and i ended up in tears hosing this stinking dog down .

But ill get there , and so will you . It aint over till the fat lady sings

Thanks,mummytime.
Diggs - that is where it's at for me ,too - it might not be ok,we might end up in deep shit.
Everything feels like the final straw at the moment.I crumble ,shout or drink wine at the slightest provocation and it just makes me feel worse.My dc trust me ,too,but they are getting a very irritable mummy most of the time.

It is soo bloody annoying to have to live in a state of readiness for viewings.We can't ,basically.So it's a case of mega-stress every time we get a booking.Of course,I stress about not getting viewings,too.And I see my "home" as on big ,messy burden.I really feel as if I don't want any possessions any more.I just want to be living in an open space which is free from stuff,mess and dirt.

Or,to be able to come in,close the door and get on with our lives.Living in hopeful limbo is hell.

Living in hopeful limbo is hell.

Isnt it . I am trying to sell quickly or else we will get repossessed , the bank are shit , in fact loads of people are shit . They just dont do their job and its all completeley out of my control ( something i find very hard ). And its no accidant , its the carefully planned result of a shit divorce with a shit ex , he wanted this all along .

But on the plus side , i dont have to put up with him anymore , and ive met loads of people who have gone beyond their job to help us , which has restored my faith in people a little bit , and im nearly at the end of this whole sorry episode . I just didnt bank on it being this hard , or paying this sort of price .

Nearly there , and so are you (Its Dignified btw)

OOOh, Hi D !!!!

Good luck both of you, puts my moving issues in to perspective to be honest - as I said to DH when it all went tits, at least we're not at risk because of it, and schools won't be an issue for a wee while. I hope it all pans out for all of us x