Does "I've never felt this way about anyone before" always signify abuse?

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I've seen this described as a red flag on here and it's something that's been said to me in more than one abusive relationship.

I've just read a trashy book and it ended with the romantic hero saying something along these lines to the heroine. Made me think he shouldn't be saying it or she shouldn't trust him as he must be a wrong 'un! But can it ever be ok?

I suppose it's a red flag if said too early in the relationship.

But can't see any problem if it's a long term deal. Why can't it be said after a year, two years.

I think DP and I said it to each other within a fortnight of meeting - 17 years on and it wasn't a red flag!?

It's twee romantic nonsense- which more usually indicates that someone has gone a bit dippy for you, not that you will end up under their patio. HTH.

DH said it to me within the month, we've been married 11 years and he's a lovely bloke, if a bit untidy :)

Not necessarily, but it is cheesey, unoriginal and the sort of thing you would say if you are putting someone on a pedestal, also things like "you're the only one I've ever cared about", "I'll never love someone in the way I'll love you" etc and anything very cliche.

DH has never said anything like that to me. Someone from my past has and he is textbook nutjob.

My husband said it to me within 2 weeks been married 7 years now, cause it doesnt mean a red flag.

I said it once to my DH, because it's true and I was a bit pished.

He's lovely, I hope I am.

God, no.

I've said it to DH and he's said it to me. I think drink may have been taken too. We did mean it though. DH wasn't using it as a "line" though. We were just talking about how we dug each other.

Abusive partners have said it too me too, very early on.

I think you need to trust your guts.

I think maybe I'm reading too much into it!

On its own maybe it's not a red flag then in the context of a healthy relationship or just being a bit soppy, but if it's implied that all other women are bitches apart from you then I guess it's time to run for the hills!

My DH said it to me within a few days of us getting together, though we'd known each other a few months

We moved in together a fortnight later, and got married after 12 months. We've just celebrated 10 years together. So no, it isn't always a red flag cos my DH is far from abusive!