DP has 4 boys from a previous marriage, 13, 18, 20 and 21. They all live with him. At first, things were rocky between the boys accepting me as DP's new partner, but just lately things have been great. My boys and his boys get on and we see each other and do fun family things together when we can.
The 18 year old, let's call him Jake, has just had 2 years out doing nothing with his time. No college, no work. He has had to rely on DP to give him money. He has now decided he wants to go to college in Sept which his granny and grandad has agreed to fund. That's good and i'm pleased he's finally going up in the world because he has great abilities. However, Jake has told DP that he will have to have money to get his equipment and new clothes etc for college, so DP gave Jake £250 to put in a bank account ready for college and stressed it is only to be used for college things. DP gets around £200 per months wage so really struggles with the bills and to give his boys nice things.
On Saturday, I was at DP's house, and Jake came in with a new phone (iphone, I think). It turns out that Jake used the money for college to buy this new bloody phone. Now Jake is saying the shop won't take the phone back as it's been used and has been mithering DP for 'another £40' to get some specialised clothes and boots for college as they're essential items for his course. His granny told Jake that he could earn the £40 needed for college on his grandads market stall at weekend, but he refused saying he already had plans to see friends. After I had gone home on Saturday DP had given Jake the £40. Now, usually it's their affairs, their business, but DP had promised my boys and his 13 yr old that we were going the the seaside and have dinner there next week and that's what the £40 had been put aside for. He really worked them up with excitement and was showing them pics on the internet of the beach and telling them what we're going to do. Now I have some very dissapointed children and i'm pissed off that DP gave in to Jake, has created a spoilt brat out of him and had pretty much left me to have to let the children down about our fun day out. Luckily for me, DP's dad has offered to pay for our fun day out and has given us a little extra to go to the theme park. Hooray for DP's dad, I can get the children excited again!