DP has a massive issue with 'negativity'. He can't handle it when I or anyone else says/does anything he perceives as 'negative' as it really upsets him or annoys him or he thinks that he is being blamed for whatever has happened.
I have explained to him that just because I've expressed negativity about something 1. It doesn't mean I'm blaming him 2. I am perfectly entitled to express how I feel about something.
I'm not really explaining myself well here. I'll give some examples.
He accidentally drops something on my foot and I exclaim something like 'ouch!' or swear - he immediately jumps in with 'it wasn't my fault'. I then say, 'I know this, I was just reacting to the pain'. He makes out like my reaction was totally unnecessary.
A more extreme example is this: we had a terrible journey somewhere this weekend and when we were walking the final leg I was jokey moaning about it, sort of taking the mickey out of he situation we'd found ourselves in, to get it out of my system before we arrived at friend's house (I explained that I needed to do this).
He got really annoyed and then miserable, saying I was ruining the day because I was being so negative and when we arrived he was in a foul mood (even though I stopped it because of his response)
I'm struggling with this because it's like I am NEVER allowed to express anything other than joy and happiness, which is just not normal!
Can anyone give me any insight into why he might be like this and what I can do to stop it being an issue?
(I'd like to point out now that I am generally a happy non-moany person and I'm definitely not a drama queen!)
Sorry it's so long!