Arghhhh Broody/Not Broody/Broody/Not Broody WWYD?

[M0naLisa]

Me and DH have been together 6years in October, Married for 5 years in December. We have 2 DC, 2 boys aged 4 and 3. I suffered bad PND after the birth of DS2, i hated being a mum, i wanted to end it all, i didnt want to be here. I was put on Prozac and had a CPN come to see me each week, when i was feeling bad she came out twice a week. My HV came every week for 6 months etc etc....

Now DS2 is 3 years old, he tests my patience a few times but which little boys don't?

We live in a 2 bed terrace in a lovely area of a crap town. My family and friends live 30 miles away. I have family in the town but hardly see them as they are the ones born with the silver spoons in their mouths and i was born with a wooden one so we dont interact if you like!

Lately more and more i am getting soooooooooo broody.

A Tesco baby event has just come through the door and i was looking, theres baby lotion, talc, sterlisers, bottles, nappies, dummies etc etc oohhh :(

BUT i had an horrific time during labour/pregnancy - suffered from SPD and still do some days even now.

Me and DH said that we'd never have anymore but then a couple of months ago before DH got his good job that he does now, he said
'If things were different and money was coming in better then maybe one day we'd have another'

I was shocked and just said 'haha no i dont think so'
Because of the fear of the pregnancy, labour and birth and the feelings of what if i get PND again.

I had a termination in 2009 because of money and my feelings towards the pregnancy/labour/birth and more because of my feelings towards getting PND again. I had the termination at 11 weeks on the NHS, from week 7 i was poorly with Hyperemesis. I was told if i was continuing the pregnancy i would more than likely be in the hospital 30 weeks of the pregnancy in and out in and out. And also in any more subsequent pregnancies.

How can i get rid of these feelings? I would hope that one day i might change my mind about the whole pregnancy/birth/labour/PND etc etc and decide to try for a 3rd child. But not yet.

Sorry its long, i had to get it all out. :(

BTW the feelings come and go, one day im broody then the next i am not, then i am then im not :(

didnt mean to add WWYD onto my title cos obviously i am not asking you lot WWYD haha.

Hi there M0naLisa, I can absolutely sympathize with your broodiness! I'm in a very similar boat (so no constructive advice sadly)

We have 3 dc's, our youngest is 12mths. I have been broody since before he was born and dh doesn't even know. I promised him that #3 would be the last when I found out I was pregnant as I never in a million years expected to feel this way again! Everyday is a bit sadder than the day before. :( I'm too scared to ask dh or tell him how I feel. (not your problem sorry... )

I too don't have very nice pregnancies (although nothing like yours), I get horrendous SPD ending up with me on crutches

We are on the exchange list with the council but gawd knows how long that will take.

When i had the sickness before i lost 2 stone in 3 weeks due to everything me eating i threw back up again, even water.

Some days i am VERY broody but other days i just think 'oh god no i cant go through that again, sleepless nights, making bottles, teething, colic etc etc but then i think 'Arrrr' iykwim?!

ARGH i hate my mind at the moment. Yeah same here DH is the only hurdle lol we both have the same ideas of what we want in life and i think if we were rich/welloff then maybe another DC would be on the cards. Although its easy for him to say that as he doesnt have to carry for 9mths does he lol.

Personaly If I were you, I would just offer to babysit your friends babies to satisfy your broodiness! You have had a bad time of it with your pregnancies, so If I were you, I'd enjoy your children, DP and your life in general. Focus on yourself now, maybe go and learn a new skill or work with kids?

crikey 2stone in 3weeks!

I wish I could turn my broodiness off tbh, as it's gonna start causing problems I think... But I so want another child (wouldn't skipping the pregnancy/sleepless nights bits tho lol)

The postlady just brought me the Tesco baby event flyer :(

I'm the same as you, I hate my mind right now!!

wouldn't mind skipping...

CJ i could but i am not great with other childrens kids.

My nephew is 17mths old and i find myself getting agitated when he cries. I cannot stand crying babies unless they are my own. Also to change another childs nappy i would be sick. Its how i am.

It was also one of my fears when pregnant with DS1, i hasted children, i would avoid going shopping because i found myself getting annoyedd with the mums who leave their child screaming in the pushchair whilst they are trying on shoes, tops, looking through the bras in primarni. Otherwise i would.....i sound awful dont i. But no even when DN was newborn i didnt change his bum not even for a wee, i couldnt.

I want to go for a career or a job but have to wait until next september when DS2 is in full time school due to childcare. i feel stuck in limbo. To think i am 25 and i'll never have any more kids is upsetting but its not in a way, its hard to explain.

Other childrens kids i meant other peoples kids

thats what i received this morning :( lol

yeah i was 10st and i dropped to 8st from back end of feb to 11th march 09.

Totally understand...I'm 26. It's sad to think I may be done having children, yet I'm in a position now where other people older than me are still aspiring to. I'm young enough to grow with my children and enjoy them. But would like to enjoy one more

Lol yeah i know what you mean

Wow this thread I forgot I started.

Needless to say DS3 arrived on Nov 30th 2012 :-)