me and my boyfriend are falling appart

[lucy4avarose]

me and my boyfriend have been together a year now and i gave birth to our very beautiful girl he wants to come and see her but i dont trust him what do i do ? xxx

sorry a bit lost. You are together and he wants to come and see his daughter?

yer i am living with my mum for support beause he lost his job

We are going to need more than that..

well h is living with his dad but he is also doing drugs so i dunno what to do i love him but i know he cant provide.

If he's doing drugs, that's a deal-breaker. If you don't trust him, that's a deal breaker. You know what to do. Good luck.

He's not really your boyfriend though is he? He's someone you met, got pregnant by almost immediately and are now lumped into parenthood with. If you don't trust him, then you don't have a relationship. YOu both sound very young, what a sad situation all round

Why don't you trust him? Is he violent, abusive, a gambler, a drunk, a druggie? Does he cheat on you? What?

Oh sorry, x-posted.

I would separate the relationship such as it is, from access to your child. I would want him to have supervised access, certainly to start with.

Whether he can provide or not is irrelevant, that is no reason to stop a man from seeing his child.

The drugs however is a different kettle of fish alltogether.

How sad
How old are you both?

I would let him see your dd with supervision but don't let him have her on his own. Maybe seeing her will give him the kick up the arse he needs to get off the drugs and support you both?

Get a grip and grow up now you have a daughter to look after and think of!! You sound like a love-struck teenager who doesn't quite know her own mind.
Let him see her with someone repsonsible around when it is pre arranged but other than that please stop thinking you are "together"!! Move on from the drug using idiot who got you pregnant!