When the relationship is over...

[Tosellornotto]

Would you sell gifts that you had been bought? I can't decide what to do, I am very hurt by the end of the relationship and my exes crazy behaviour since and am trying everyday to make myself feel better. I have a lot of gifts that he bought me that I can't bear to look at, so I am thinking will getting rid of them and doing something good with the money, thinking a holiday for me and my friends might help or could I regret it in the future, anyone done this?

Thinking particularly if anyone sold engagement ring, things like that, did you regret it?I don't trust my own mind at the moment but I feel like getting rid of jewellery etc might be quite liberating?

Engagement ring is def fair game to sell, go for it! It is considered very ungentlemanly to ask for it back.

dont regret it at all!!

we weren't engaged but the jewellry I had was worth about £20k new and I would never get stuff like it again, but I feel like I am choked by the necklace, I love the earrings so much but again it felt like a sign of ownership, he bought them to replace a much smaller pair of diamond earrings bought by my previous boyfriend.

Definitely sell them. What use is the value if you don't like them?

yes for that value, i'd sell them tbh.

for smaller less valuable items (ie £50 tbh i'd sling it in a river) but valuable stuff you might as well try to sell.

(fwiw I had an ex ask for underwear & a watch back he'd brought me - sold all of that on ebay - the underwear was a bit far I think but hey ho)

In my 20's I sold several items of jewellery and electrical equipment. One paid for my phone bill so that was good.

he hasn't asked for anything back and in fact has offered to help me buy a new house, I realised that I couldn't live with myself taking that offer up, integrity means more. I never wanted the expensive gifts, I wanted him to love me and treat me well. I suspect his new girlfriend is far more about the gifts.

I would sell them and buy yourself some jewellery that you do like!

My H left, left and left his wedding ring behind, I am wondering whether its fair game to sell his stuff?

I think it would be, personally I have only kept a hood that was his that I am using to go to the gym and as looking admit makes me cross and therefore try harder :-)

That was meant to say hoodie!

I took the rings, necklaces etc I'd had bought me and had them made into something different that I loved. I'd never normally be able to afford stuff like that so it's nice to have something I designed. Can understand why you'd want to get rid tho, sometimes you just simply don't want reminding!

I did think of that but it's all really plain stuff platinum/diamonds that I couldn't think of anything to do with apart from make into a ring which could be misconstrued as being a bit mad. My plan is to start with the necklace and see what I could get for it as it was £10k new I have a lower limit that I would accept, if not, then I guess it will be saved as a family heirloom!