ok I was with my Ex for 7years, perfect at first, aren't they all? then the small things started and I put them to one side, then once the children came along, it got worse. Yes it was sometimes physical, we was both as bad as each other at times if I'm honest, but I finally snapped last week and decided enough was enough, I gathered the children, packed a suitcase and rang women's aid whilst he was out, they were really nice to me and had a place in a refuge for me but was having difficulty getting there. I finally rang my parents and told them what had been going on and they drove straight down from work to pick me up, yes my Ex could be a fab husband at times, but 'at times' isn't enough, I know there was infedelity in our marriage but I was too scared to challenge him in case it started yet another argument which my children would have been witness to. There was name calling on both sides, constant suspicions and accusations, not helping with the children (he actually waited until I had got back from the shops one day for me to change the baby!) and like I say physical abuse too. I've been away for a week now and he's constantly ringing and texting, telling me he is sorry and that I need to get the children back home where they belong, yes I know I need too but he's refusing to leave the marital home and as I couldn't put my children through that anymore I chose to remove myself and the children from that situation, he even came to my daughter's school yesterday and tried to take her out of class!