come and talk sense into me.... tell me not to text/call...

[jacobdezoet]

Help me sit on my hands here... I have been seeing a guy for a few weeks and it has been very intense and passionate and then... nothing. I last saw him on Wednesday and it was all fine and he said he needed some space and ... nothing, really. I have texted a couple of times and got a friendly but short reply... oh it's so obvious I know.
He's just not that bothered is he? God I'm really sorry about it. He was just so gorgeous and seemed really into me but, no, he's not is he?
Argh, I am so tempted to text! Help me STOP AND RETAIN MY DIGNITY! We were supposed to be seeing each other on Wednesday.... It's not going to happen is it?

Don't do it! What will you text anyway? 'Are you still alive?' 'Have you lost my number?'
Go and read a book, do some housework, anything. Just leave your phone alone.
In fact, turn it off.... delete his number.
He's just not bothered. So, you aren't either, right?

Don't text.

If he contacts you re Wednesday, great.
If not, well, you know its going nowhere.
More fish in the sea, blah, blah.

I think when a man says he needs some space he means it's over. Sorry.

Don't text, keeping your dignity is always the best plan. The best revenge is living well. Read a great book, plan a night out, feather your nest. Don't text him. That's like calling someone to tell them never to call you again.

Don't. And if he texts you, don't reply within ten seconds .

Phone a mate, watch a good programme, trawl the threads here, smile and take absolute smug delight in knowing that the longer you don't text him the MORE WORTH you are giving yourself in his eyes. You are becoming more and more worthful! Enjoy waking up in the morning and NOT texting. You will feel wonderful! Good luck!

sit here with me and stop me texting while I stop you

Ladies

Stop it! Don't text. No don't. Delete their number. Seriously. Delete it! It will annoy them so much that you are not playing their game.

You never know.
Back off a little, give him his 'space' and see what happens.

But prepare for the worst - moving on to find someone even better.

Do not text him.

Don't text, and even better - could you give your phone to someone for them to look after for a couple of days?

OK it's deleted.... The last time I was dating, the mobile phone didn't exist (well I didn't have one) and we didn't have these horrors/temptations.
It was much much easier then I think.

And now I'm into.... why did he SAY all those things?? Was he LYING? Did he ever really mean it? It felt real and true, but maybe I was deluding myself?
God I hate this. I feel like a teenager.

You could watch the film 'hes just not that into you' its a fairly shit film but interesting if you're single I think.

When I was single I used to always think 'but why did he say this, that and the other he didn't need to, so why do it when he obviously didn't mean a word of it' And I think that some people just say what they think you want to hear. Maybe they meant it then then decided not the next day, maybe someone that suited them better turned up, maybe they don't like confrontation, maybe... who knows. I think that when its right you dont need to worry about this kind of crap

EXACTLY BrianAndHisBalls - when it is right it is not hard work!

Except that my DH was HARD WORK and basically the best thing to do it ignore them. Let them get on with it and live on!

They kid themselves it's what they want then they run scared think too much and piss off.