Moments of feeling insecure

[M0naLisa]

Have posted this in chat too to see what reactions i get as more traffic through there.

Anyone ever get feelings like this?

I think because its that time of the month that i am feeling more like this. But i dont know why.

My DH is not having an affair (or so i dont think hmm lol) But i did find a message in his fb inbox from a lass giving him her mobile number - but her friend (DH and her mutual friend) sells cheap fags and bags of backy and i know she sells its cheaper - she mentioned so in her message. Not a threat.

For some reason i just feel as if i am not enough for him, iv been having weird dreams that hes with someone else iykwim?

Anyone else get like that?

Or is it just me! confused

Talk to him, tell him how you feel. He should be able to reassure you, without just saying "oh you're being stupid".

Talking is the only way.

I know people on here will say 'trust your instincts' and your gut is trying to tell you something, but I also have to say that just before my period I get incredibly insecure and needy and morose and can convince myself that my BF doesn't want to be with me, etc.

In fact only this weekend I had two nights in a row where I dreamt he was shouting at me like my ex used to do and telling me he would never love me.

That's ALL about my own insecurities and shitty ex relationship and nothing to do with the way my BF is with me, so I think in this case, on balance, you can blame it on hormones.

However, I have ALWAYS been like this so I kind of expect it of myself now IYSWIM? And I know how to pull myself together and try to keep rooted in reality.

Is this a new change in behaviour for you? Did you used to feel ok during PMT and now you're suddenly feeling magnified feelings of insecurity?

If it's a recent development then maybe there is a little alarm bell going off in the distance somewhere?

Depends if it's unusual for you to feel like this generally.

I have always felt insecure in a way specially with DH, he was there for me when i needed him, he was my knight in shining armour (soppy i know) i left my ex knobhead of a boyfriend for him as i knew he was the one.

Nope, no change in his behaviour or way he is. Things have happened in the past that makes me more aware of if he is up to anything. I know the signs to look for. Plus if he did/was up to no good, i am the owner of his mobile phone contract, i know his password to his email (although not FB as he has changed that )

My ex cheated on me with prostitutes and i think i get my insecurities from that but that was over 6 years ago now. then again as the saying go you can forgive but you cant forget.

Me and DH had a blip the other year and he was texting my now ex Friend. I found out before it went any further.

Ah, so he has previous form for contacting women behind your back? Well then I can see that you have a valid reason for your concerns, especially since he is chatting with a woman on facebook and has changed his password.

In your position I think I would at least be attempting to see whether 2 and 2 made 4.

Have you spoken to him about how you're feeling? His reaction would be very telling I think.

Well i have checked his mobile phone contract online billing and nothing so.........god knows. Nothing on the home phone online billing too.

He knows how i feel, i tell him all the time - like if we're cuddling he'll tell me he loves me and i'll say 'do you?' and he will say 'of course i do?'

He knows i have the feeling of insecurity and he does help to put that at rest, i mean when he was texting my friend i knew something was wrong, i knew they were chatting on FB, when i confronted them both they stopped or so i thought - they started by text then - and i confronted them again. I knew it, i knew something wasnt right. You just know in your head dont you?