My mum attatcked my sister.

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I've posted several times about my mum in my usual name, but have name changed for this.

My mum was physically abusive when I was a child. Violent and manulative... sweet as sugar to the outside world.

We have a good relationship now though at times I find her very hard to be around.

My sister is having an awful time at the moment and to cut a long story short my mum attacked he today whilst my sister was holding her 4 year old son.

My mum strangled my sister, who eventually had to hit my mum to try and get her off her, and so my mum punched my sister repeatedly in the face.

She rang after my mum left (dragged away by my dad)

I told her to call the police but she wont as my mum is a well respected person with a professional job and she told my sister social services will take her son if they find out he has witnessed violence (bullshit)

I just don't know what to do.

I want to call her and tell her what i think of her but the repercussions will be immense :(

Am so sick of thisi told my aunt recentl about what happened to me behind closed doors as a child and she was horrified and had no clue, mum hid it all so well.

Oh OP that's terrible :( Your poor sister. It sounds like you're both very afraid of your mum. It's time for that to stop. You're both adults now and she no longer has any hold over you. I think it's time for both of you to cut contact with her completely and to take action such as going to the police if she comes near either of you again. She's a danger to you and to your children.

BTW unless you think it'll make you feel a lot better (unlikely) then I don't advise you to ring her as she may use that against you at a later stage. Just do what you can to get free of her control. You have absolutely no obligation to her.

I would end contact as there is nothing good to be gained from this relationship. Your mum does not care what she does or the impact her actions have, such as strangling a person in front of her son/grandson. That is bizarre. Hope your sister is okay.

There is no way that social services would take your sister's child off her. However there is every chance and rightly so that your mother would be preosecuted if your sister reported it.

Why are you worried about the repercussions if you told your mum what you thought of her? What do you think she could do? Do you want to continue seeing her and having a relationship with her? Does your sister?

i would have rang the police if it were me or if i were there to witness it.

i think shes a very ill woman mentally and has never got help with it.

viva, i just mean her going crazy at me, which she would. noone can question her without her loosing it.

shes attacked my aunt and when i spoke to my nana this evening shes even attacked her in the past, her own mum :(

I too would end all comtact as of now.
You know how bad it was for you as children and she is now going to repeat history by continuing the behaviour in front of her grandchildren.

I would stop seeing and speaking to her before she hurts her grandchildren too.

So sorry to hear this, what a horrendous situation for you all. It sounds like your mum needs to be stopped though as she clearly didn't care on the impact of her violence on her grandson, never mind her own daughter. No matter what her standing in society I think your sister should make a complaint to the police. What does your dad make of this? And what repercussions would there ne if you did speak your mind to your mum? It sounds like she is being given free reign to behave as she pleases with no consequences...

If your sister has any visible injuries, get a record of them, even if she's sure she doesn't want to call the police. Maybe in the future, she will want to report it and/or if anything else happens, it could be useful.

I'd advise you both to cut contact with her altogether, as nothing can compensate for this kind of behaviour.

I would ring the police and then cut all contact.

Clearly the woman shouldn't be around children.

OK, how about if you spoke to her over the phone though? She can't physically get to you and when she starts ranting put the phone down and take it off the hook. Don't answer the door and change your phone number if you need to.

What does your dad say about all this?

Sympathies by the way. My mother can be like this though has not physically attacked me since I was a teen. She did however stab my dad a few years ago and has a terrible temper.

My dad is as bad, in the run up to this he threw a paste brush at my other sister who is just 18.

she is a gobby one but they are too quick to get physical :(

we sound like a right lot - but i think ive managed to avoid being like them despite being raised by them :(

This is horrible. What does your Dad have to say about all of this? Is he bullied and manipulated by your mother? Does he feel a need to keep her outbursts under wraps for an easy life?

If the police were not called in the heat of the moment it's probably not worth it now, but if I were you I would tell your Mother that you no longer want to be around her, or for her to have contact with her GCs until she has proven that she can take positive steps towards confronting her own vile behaviour, and get some anger management and/or counselling.

And then just leave her alone for as long as it takes. She will know what she needs to do to put things right.

Oh, crossed posts! You do sound like a right lot - it's true!