Need to vent!
Posted a lot on here last year about the decline of my 20 year marriage, husband's affair with a girl half my age and subsequent divorce. Thanks to all those at the time, found it a huge support!
Divorced in December, I bought him out of the house, so I could stay here and have a large mortgage as a result. Husband agreed legally to pay £250 a month for our 12 year old daughter (which is under what CSA would have stipulated). I give our son £200 a month for University..ex gives nothing as he says son is 19 so he doesn't have to.
In April he bought our son a new laptop for £289, I would have bought one but couldn't that month as I needed to pay about £1000 to urgently replace a large fence in my garden that had blown down in the wind. Son agreed to pay half the laptop. I paid for his first laptop which he unfortunately broke when he dropped it.
Now ex is demanding half the laptop money from me, he now says it cost £500. I texted and let him know that I would be ensuring son would be given the money from me to pay (as I know that son knows how much it is and will not pay half of the wrong amount)
Ex now says he will not be paying child maintenance this month, as he can't because of paying for the laptop and he will not go overdrawn for me.
I never agreed to pay half the laptop in the first place, he offered to buy my son it.
Ex says I am greedy. We have a property in joint names which we rent out. He was to take it over on divorce, as I had full responsibility for everything to do with it and didn't want to carry on with it, but the rent was paid into my account to compensate (about £200 profit, but I'm paying off the £12000 deposit I as well, so there is no profit for me).I'm still running around getting things fixed in the house and making sure the tenant is happy, so there's no change.
It stayed as it was, me paying mortgage and insurance on it until he sorted it out. He hasn't sorted it out,in the end I had to do all the paperwork to get it put into his name. It's still not in his name, despite my phoning the mortgage company regularly to hurry things up.
He should have been doing this himself, I can't ring around other mortgage advisors for a mortgage for him, he has to do that apparently.
Ayway, he feels he should have some of the rent from the property, he says it's not his fault it's taking so long. But I feel that because it was me that paid the deposit on the house of £12000, (I increased the mortgage on my current house to pay this), there is no profit for me anyway.
He says I am preventing our daughter from seeing him, he wants her to stay overnight with him, the girl he left me for and her 3 year old son, in the new house they've just bought together. My daughter says she is happy to stay there if his girlfriend isn't there. Her parents live close by so this would be easily workable, but obviously they don't want this and ex feels I should be encouraging her to stay with them. But she doesn't want to.
Anyway, he says if I like I can take him to court, he says I'll be forced to pay him something from the rental profit, something for the laptop and that visitation rights can be set up. He has no restriction on visitation, he turns up whenever he feels like it. I used to let him in the house but stopped when he slagged off things I had bought, started taking house keys and looked through my bills.
I am upset by this as I am staying in this town for my daughter's sake, so she can see him. I'm not from round here and am planning to move back up North when she leaves school.
I think I will have to consult a solicitor as I need to know whether I could be forced to give him something from the rent, when he legally agreed to put it into his name by the end of January and hasn't.
Has anyone any experience of this kind of situation? Sorry if it's a bit garbled!