its not wrong, is it , to shag someone you arent in a relationship with?

[soonerthanyesterday]

Its not is it?
Im divorced and have had very very little sexual action for 2.5 years. Ive had a grand total of about 15 shags in that time, 2 with 2 different men, the others with one. So - three men, 15 shags, in about 2.5 years.

I used to be a twice a day girl.

I just dont meet men and after the last one night stand thing i decided i wasnt going to have sex with anyone who i wasnt in a relationship with. Move forward 9 whole months and ive had not so much as a peck on the cheek.

I met someone the other week and we ended up messing about for a few hours, We have been talking and the conversation ended up being very dirty and ive sort of invited him over. I damn well want to shag him.

Half of me thinks that i should wait, and make him take me out to dinner and crap like that and just wait to see if he is interested in me, or just in shagging me.

and the other half just thinks that i dont care and i just want to get laid.

We might end up seeing each other, we might not, it might just be a shag, i have no idea at this stag and really, there is no way of knowing is there...

Do it and enjoy it! Nothing wrong at all.

Nothing wrong at all so long as no one is getting hurt.

Nothing wrong with gagging for some action. If you really hand on heart don't mind either way if it turns into something more or not then just go for it!! As long as you take precautions then theres nowt wrong with a bit of no strings rumpy, pumpy imo!

Enjoy

If you're hungry you need to eat....can you see where I'm going with this :o

i have no idea at this stage if id like it to go further.. i dont know him really do it, so have no idea if i want a realtionship with him.
I do know i want to shag him.
I will be safe.

But just at the back of my mind ive this little voice saying ' god woman, you are in your mid 30's and you should want more for yourself'

If you're single and he's single - and yes, with the all-important precautions - then by all means go for it. If you conclude afterwards that casual shagging is not in fact going to work for you, you don't have to do it again!

Age has nothing to do with it and theres nothing to say that if you sleep with this man things won't turn more serious if they are meant to!. I have 2 friends who both shagged their husbands on the first date and it didn't do them any harm.

But if the voice is anything more than the smallest whisper then maybye you should heed it? Your emotional wellbeing is the most important thing and theres always Anne Summers

but ann summers is not the same as the touch of another human.

We are both single. Ive never worked out if casual shagging is for me or not. i lean towards not, but to be honest, its been so long is sort of feel like i dont care and just want to do it.

I shagged my ex husband on our first date. well, it wasnt even a date, we met in the pub.

If you want to do it then do it OP, life is too short for overthinking everything.

if no-one gets hurt, and both are single, go for it

but if it is hurting you then yes, maybe you should re-evaluate

if what you want is a longer term relationship, however, many have started from that first one night stand

I dunno, in other words, nothing is "wrong" unless you are unhappy with it (or it hurts others)

Go for it.

Oh, and for the record I can't think of a single one of my friends who didn't shag their long term partner/husband on the first date.

Actually, I can't think of a single one of my friends who DID shag their partner/husband on the first date.

So, I'm going to disagree with everybody else.

Get to know this man first, then consider sleeping with him.

If you're just after a shag, you don't really have to know him that well do you? So just go for it. But the minute you start thinking you might really like him and want to get to know him better and want more than just a shag, then you might have to re-evaluate.

Whatever happens, put it down to experience and enjoy the moment.

I used to love having casual sex, had it for years in my 20's and loved every minute.

Go for it, enjoy!

If you want a friend with naked benefits, go for it!

For a relationship with this guy, I'd probably wait.

That said, I married my "fuck buddy" (what a delightful phrase) 10 years after we first fumbled, after 4 separate periods of "fumbleation" and 3 years of not talking!