It is a really tough one. I am a husband - married 14 years, 2 children, youngest now 7. Never been great sleepers which hasn't helped. Sex is now less than once a month and I am more of a 3 or 4 times a week person and that's how it's been for 10 years. Wife is sahm. Tried gently talking about it, daytime rendezvous's, getting babysitters, tried organising weekends away. But it is still crawling along in first gear. I don't want to push it too hard as the rest of the relationship is great and I don't want her to feel this is "her fault" which would spoil the rest of what is a great relationship. I suspect her sex drive is just now very low, or at least a lot lower than mine. If that is the case then Im not sure there is very much that can be done. Even on holiday, no stress, lots of sleep, still no sex. That's a big problem for me. There has often been a good reason - disturbed nights, stress, small children but after 10 years I'm beginning to think this is just the way it's going to be. we are both in our late 40's and frankly I'm not ready to give up on my sex life that easily!