DP and I are both divorced and when we first got together 10 years ago, we both said that marriage was not on either of our radars, and we had a very casual relationship, after a few years we decided that we wanted to be with each other long term and moved in together.
Like all relationships we've had our ups and downs at the begining but things have been great especially since DD arrived 18 months ago.
It's been a bit of a running joke, that if I ever wanted to get married that I'd have to be the one to pop the question, because although he wouldn't say no, I think both of us still felt that the no marriage at the begining of the relationship was still valid.
We were chatting this week, and he let slip that he had thought about proposing earlier this year, but due to not being able to find my grandmothers ring, he hadn't at the time, and now he felt "All this stuff" had come up since. Now I had also been planning to pop the question myself at the olympics next year, but we didn't get any tickets, so when he told me this I mentioned my plans.
The problem is we basically just dropped the conversation at that point, and I'm not sure what to do now. Do I try and find out what all this stuff that he refered to is? Do I stick to my plans and see if he does anything in the interim?
I love him so much, and we're talking about TTC a second child later this year, so I don't think anything major has changed in our relationship. But if we're both thinking about marriage should we talk about it, because I know as soon as either set of parents mentions it, we'll both go off the idea, as we're both stubborn and want to do things in our own time, not to please anyone else.