Why does everyone assume I am "Mrs C"...

[booooring]

...now that I have 2 kids ? I get called Mrs at least once a day. Does anyone else have this problem ?

I love being a Mrs and wouldn't have wanted children if I wasn't - just my opinion, not a judgement before I hear the hounds - so I like it.

I guess it depends on where they're getting the name from. If it is because they know your partner, then I agree it's probably time for that assumption to drop. If they know your child's surname, then I think that it is fair enough tbh.

Ah, you see, another reason for giving kids both surnames .

Ms/Mrs doesn't bother me.
Cold callers asking to speak to 'the head of the household' does.
No head here mate, we live in a commune....I will say that one day.

assuming your child's name IS dp's name lol

People always used to refer to me as Mrs X before I had DD and after. We got married when DD was 11 months old. It never bothered me, in fact I quite liked it

Hey, I get that too, Ninah. Or Christmas cards to us both with his surname from people who, frankly, would have been invited had he decided to Do The Decent Thing

ooh yes gingerbear I LOATHE that! head of the household

Have to say taht one of the reasons I changed was taht I wanted there to be no mistake that I was related to my mixed race kids, IYKWIM. Ds1 looks very Chinese and I didn't want any hassle when travelling or any thing lke that. Ds2 is very fair and white looking, now it's dh who gets the funnylooks when they are together.

Maybe it would have been a different story if I was having kids with and marrried to another big whitey.

I can see that completely, Suzy. And it's such a lovely name, too.

Isn't your DH that nice bloke delivering the Chinese-takeaway Mrs W?

I'm not married to my partner and it does get on my nerves when people say "Mrs xxxx" at school etc as DD has partners surname, not mine.

everyone refers to me as DP's wife and mrs S. i like it. i like it a lot more than them trying to pronounce my name and getting it wrong.

Nah, I like to put them through trying to pronounce my name. Let 'em squirm.

I wanted to keep my maiden name when we got married. I liked it and it was far better than his boring, typical Lancashire one! But everyone would have just called me Mrs C anyway. It feels funny to be called the same name as his blummin' mum!

Agree with letters adressed to Mr and Mrs [his name], as far as I'm aware I haven't had a sex change to turn into a double of him!

Seems stupid that today you still lose your identity when you get married!

Nobody has ever called me Mrs...

But maybe that is because I look about 12 and they assume I am the babysitter...

Well so far Ive never had anyone call me Mrs dp's surname thankfully. For some wierd reason people take one look at me and assume that I'm a Ms. Cant think why but am very glad as I have no intention of ever being Mrs anything. things might change tho once dd starts school .

It has recently taken ages to get a CRB check done (I help out in school) because I didn't change my name when I got married - dh changed his. Check has now come through, but says on the bottom (paraphrased) 'Check for Mrs X shows nothing, but has consistently failed to declare any previous names, although marital status indicates name-change' WTF!!!

BTW I have told them 3 times

Ooh would be well annoyed if someone assumed my kids surnames were that of either of my partners,they have my surname cos I did not marry either of their dads,and thats the way I like it.

Dp's Mum does it to me, and uses only DP's name in DS's surname (he has both). And my sister did not change her name on marriage, which everyone in the family knows, but a whole host of aunts still insist on calling her Mrs 'H's name'.

It's a sort-of-understandable assumption from strangers, but from family....Grrrrrrr!

Dp gets called Mr Blu as often as I get called 'Mrs DP', so i don't feel opressed!

I'm Dr X-Y (where X is dh'a name and Y is my maiden name) and dh still just has his name. (In Germany only one partner is allowed to have a double barrel and the name of the partner without is the official 'family name' which the children have to be called). At dr's surgeries, the bank etc. etc. I am only ever referred to by dh's name and usually without the title (as if they think it's not 'mine' iyswim - here it used to be the case that wives also carried their husbands' titles). dh's relatives send us stuff addressed to 'family (dh's first name dh's surname]. Worst thing was when I got a bill from the dentist for my treatment, done in my name - addressed to dh!

traditionally its an honorofic to be called mrs.
so if someone is calling you mrs childrens surname, they are honoring you. however society has changed now, and being an unmarried mother no longer has the same connotations, but habits in schools and hospitals die hard. which is why teachers are all mrs or miss or mr x y z. and maternity staff will refer to everyone as mrs so and so, even if said pregnant woman is 14!

I got married a few weeks ago, I was Ms P before and I'm Ms P now but try telling that to my family. It was my birthday yesterday and all cards were addressed to Mrs V despite very long conversations explaining why I don't want to change my name!!