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Why can't I forget about this ar*ehole b*st*rd?

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mamaofthreelittlemonkeys · 07/06/2011 16:33

I am friends with a man who i'll call Dave. Known him for over 10 years now. When we originally met all those years ago we were nothing more than a casual fling, it was purely sex and a nice friendship. I then got in a serious relationship with someone and Dave and I lost contact until a year ago when we bumped into each other and since then have met up many times. I think i'm falling in love with him, but I don't know why as he has absolutely nothing going for him, but he dominates my thoughts almost every minute of the day and i'm willing for my phone to beep which means he will've texted me, but he is a complete and utter wnker, yet I can't get him out of my head.

Ok, the reasons he is no good is; every woman he sees on tv, he feels the need to tell me she's pretty or she's good a good figure. He doesn't work - is on the sick but hmm, I think he's capable of working. He spits out in public which I find digustingly atrocious with any human being doing that. He isn't good at sex. He talks about his ex a whole lot and how she ruined his life, which she did, but..., he uses racially offensive language which I despise as my DS2 is mixed race and said that a black girl on tv looked like a monkey, He is seeing a psychiatrist for his depression, he listens to sh!t music, has no ambition and he rarely leaves the house apart from meeting women from the internet. I really don't know what I see in him at all, but he won't leave my mind and I have feelings for him. What can I do? :(

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mamaofthreelittlemonkeys · 07/06/2011 16:36

Reading it back, I look completely selfish. I know I should shut this man completely out of my life and pull every pube from his hairy balls making him scream in pain seeing as he's racist and my ds is mixed race. If it was anyone else i'd tell them to do it for their sons sake! I really have to delete his number and avoid his calls and texts.

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CareyFakes · 07/06/2011 16:40

It's easy from the outside looking in, but when you have an infatuation with someone it's rather difficult to just 'stop'.

I'd say your infatuation with him more reflects your current state of mind and self esteem.

Get some confidence in yourself, grow, and he'll soon feck off...you sure he's not the fuckhead father of my child, who is actually called Dave and a complete cunt

mamaofthreelittlemonkeys · 07/06/2011 16:42

CareyFakes, he may well be ha ha, except he's told me he has no kids.

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worldgonecrazy · 07/06/2011 16:45

Because you think you can change him . . . . . because we all want to be the one that rescues the bad boy . . . .

If you had said he was great at sex I would have understood it a little more.

gawdonbennett · 07/06/2011 17:06

Well look at the positives.....at least you know that no other woman with a shred of sanity or self esteem would even take a sideays glance at him even if her only other option was a tiny-cocked, smelly arsed facebook stalker......so he's all yours !!

RESULT

Zanette · 07/06/2011 17:33

Love it Gawdonbennett! :)

CareyFakes · 07/06/2011 18:50

Yeah, DD's father says he doesn't have kids to his new ones all the time...shame he has 4 with 3 different women pah.

merrywidow · 07/06/2011 19:09

You are dellusional for some reason, think about why

WhereYouLeftIt · 07/06/2011 20:24

The clue is in your OP mama. " Known him for over 10 years now. When we originally met all those years ago we were nothing more than a casual fling, it was purely sex and a nice friendship."

It's not Dave you're longing for. It's the mama of 10 years ago, the younger, carefree mama who could enjoy a casual fling. He reminds you of THEN.

Maybe you should change your MNname to Scarlet O'Hara - that was her problem, always thinking it was Ashley she loved when it was actually her life aged 16. He was superficially nicer than Dave, but still a shit letting her think he'd only married Mellie out of duty so he could bask in Scarlet's infatuation. Seriously, go out and find yourself a Rhett Butler.

amberleaf · 07/06/2011 20:42

he uses racially offensive language which I despise as my DS2 is mixed race and said that a black girl on tv looked like a monkey

For that alone dump the twat! seriously.

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