DP not dealing with this well

[iowmum88]

split from DP for 4 months, both during that time slept with other people and i genuinely thought we wouldn't get back together.

we eventually worked through things and are now back together and are the happiest we have ever been but he cannot get over the fact i slept with someone, he asks me inappropriate questions about it and it causes massive arguments.

it doesn't help at the min that he is working away as he's got time to think about it. we have been back together for 5 months and its still going on.

i accepted that he slept with someone else as we were not together, so why cant he do the same? please help give me advise on how i can stop this!!!!!!!!

im a man and in my opinion he's probably insecure and worried your comparing him (im sure your not its just how our mind s work!) i would ask the same or simular question back and he ll prob shut up

I would say to him that if he wants your relationship to work, you both have to agree not to keep discussing what happened during your split, or it will drive you apart again.

i have done every question he has asked me i have asked back but it doesnt put him off! i have said everything i can to possibly reassure him but it doesnt work its getting repetitive n im loosing my temper!!

Love, you are not giving much in the way of detail,but if he is terrorising you in the same way my X used to grill me over my 'past' (pre-him!) then you need to recognise it as a red flag. 5months is long enough to work out if you can or can not live with it.

He slept with someone, so did you. That is IT. If he can't accept it, fine, you BOTH can move on.