Swearing

[dollydoops]

When DP and I argue (which happens more than I would like but I admit that we are probably both stubborn and argumentative!) she often swears at me- quite nasty swearing like 'fuck you' and she has used the c word on occasion. Now I swear quite a lot in general conversation with adults including dp, for example I will often use 'fucking' quite casually like 'i can't believe the fucking bus didn't turn up' etc, but I can't remember a time that I actually swore at someone, let alone dp. Is this normal in arguments? It upsets me and makes me feel horrible but maybe it is just a way of expressing anger. What do you all think?

If she swears generally then I would say it is just a way of expressing her anger

no its not normal, mine would be out the door the first time he swore at me in anger

after 20+ years, i cant say we have ever sworn at each other

I would think it's just expressing anger. It wouldn't bother me at all but it it bothers you that much, you should perhaps explain that to her.

If my husband said "fuck you" to me in an argument, I would just say the same back... if he said "fuck you, you C*", that would be crossing the line. We both swear at each other on occasion (although to be honest, mostly in jest and mucking around whereas on the odd times that we argue we dont tend to swear as much for some reason), but I think everyone is different and if you know the person well enough, you do know whether they are being particularly nasty, or if it is just their normal way of showing their frustration.