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How much does Relate cost?

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2cats2many · 05/06/2011 20:51

Does anyone know what the ballpark figure is for a session/ group of sessions?

Me and DH could benefit from some counselling, but am wondering if we can afford it.

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whomovedmychocolate · 05/06/2011 20:53

£45 an hour.

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2cats2many · 05/06/2011 20:55

Thanks. Depending on how many sessions we have, it could either be ruinous or affordable...

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whomovedmychocolate · 05/06/2011 20:58

Divorce is very expensive. It may be worth it :)

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2cats2many · 05/06/2011 20:59

Very true.

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strawberryjelly · 05/06/2011 21:01

You don't have to use Relate- good counsellors are here www.bacp.org.uk Some have a sliding scale depending on your income and can go as low as £30-£35 but £40 is the average.

butterflybee · 05/06/2011 21:13

Think you mean this, unless the OP happens to live in Barnsley :)
www.bacp.co.uk/

These groups were also recommended to me when I was trying counselling. I got the impression their accreditation was more involved than Relate's but haven't looked into it properly so could be very wrong.

www.cosrt.org.uk/
www.tccr.org.uk/

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2cats2many · 05/06/2011 21:18

@butterflybee- how did you find the counselling? Did it make any kind of positive difference to your relationship? Are you still together?

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strawberryjelly · 05/06/2011 21:20

Any counsellor who belongs to BACP has to have done 400 hours of counselling as well as their diploma or degree, in order to be accredited.

relate trains their own people, but BACP is the overall registering body and all Relate and non realte counsellors who are qualified will be there. If you train with Relate i think you have to work for them for 3 years then can do your own thing- so they are not better - just a different system.

Onemorning · 06/06/2011 11:58

Hi 2cats
I'm a new poster (long time lurker). My husband and I have recently been to Relate, as we weren't communicating well at all. It's helped us loads, and we are still together. I think Relate will accept less than £45 / session if you're having financial difficulties.
Good luck x

mimiholls · 06/06/2011 12:37

You don't have to pay a set price. It's a charity and you can get their counselling for free if you have financial troubles (although there will be a waiting list if you can't pay). You have to pay a £25 registration fee and you will then be offered an initial consultation within 10 days where your needs will be assessed and you will be assigned the right type of counselling. They will ask you in that meeting about your financials and what you can afford. The suggested donation is £50 a session, and if you are able to pay this you can jump the waiting list. But it is up to you how much you pay- even if you start by paying the full amount, you can pay less than this in subsequent weeks. It is a donation as it's a charity- it's not the same as a private practice- don't be put off by the cost. Relate is available to everyone.

onclefestere · 06/06/2011 12:38

we went to Relate and paid 20 an hour as I was unwaged at the time - contact them and ask.

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2cats2many · 06/06/2011 19:59

Thanks everyone.

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butterflybee · 07/06/2011 23:14

We went to two different Relate people for a few months each. Both were good and helped make things a bit better than they were... and there were annoying logistical issues with both. The first just couldn't see us for 6 weeks all of the sudden, the other canceled sessions (with notice) quite a lot so we were effectively only going every 2nd week. I'm just in the midst of ending the relationship now... but think counselling can make a real difference if you and your partner are open to it and willing to put in some hard emotional work. Not so much if that's coming from only one person. That said, I definetly am happy that I insisted on it (among other things) as it helped me feel like I'd tried everything I could. It helped me come to an answer that way.

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