I know I'm not a mum, but watch this site quite often as some really good advice is offered here. I have been with my wife for over 10 years now and the relationship has not really been that great from day one. She has suffered from depression for along time, over 5 years, and is often moody and sometimes angry. We have 2 children 10 and 8. 3 months ago I just had enough of feeling miserable and decided to tell my wife and kids I was leaving, but 1 week later was still and am to this day. We talk, but when we do, just bicker and try to get one over on each other. The atmosphere is terrible and I feel sick most of the time. We have tried relate, but this has just made things worse as certain truths were not appreciated. What makes things worse, is that I am not even attracted to my wife anymore as she has gone from on attractive 11 stone to 18 stone and I just dony fancy her anymore. When we do talk about what to change, she says its me thats shallow and that I need to do all the work now to sort the relationship. This has been rubbish for years and now I am at wits end. I have suggested a trial seperation, but she just says in her opinion that they end in a permanent split. She has become threatening recently and I am worried that this might get out of hand. Now I don't know what to do, I think a trial will give us some space to think without the tension. Please give me some advice ..... Cheers