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Anyone got a DP in recovery?

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motheroftwoboys · 15/11/2005 15:34

Not sure if this is the right place to ask? My DH is an alcoholic and has been home from rehab for about 6 weeks after being away for a few months. It is great!!!!! Just wondering are any of you in same position? At the moment he is going to AA every night which, obviously, is the most important thing but my body clock is suffering! Don't get back in from work till 6.45 ish. He goes to either 7.30 or 8 pm for an hour and a half so we aren't eating till 9.30 or 10! Just wondered how long the every day bit goes on for? Also, re drinking in the house. We don't have any alcohol in the house at all anymore. do miss having the odd glass of wine but not an issue . We go on holiday for New Year, just wondering if I need to be "with him" and be dry all of the time or if I can have the odd drink. He says it doesn't bother him but doesn't feel right to me.

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noddyholder · 15/11/2005 15:40

My dp has been in recovery for 13 years he stopped drinking and did AA solid for about 2 years I still drink wine and we still go to parties etc.It doesn't bother my dp either You are not an alcoholic he is and so you can carry on as usual although we don't go to parties etc where people are getting really drunk IYSWIM My dp no longer goes to AA as he felt it ran its course and he didn't want to live his life by a set of rules but it def helped at the start Good luck it is great

motheroftwoboys · 15/11/2005 16:04

thanks for the reply. Glad to know everything is still good 13 years down the line. We are still learners in comparison! I am sure the AA visits will slow down in time. Just can't believe he is now finding it such a help. At one time he wouldn't have contemplated it. Not for him etc etc. It's like we are being given out lives (and love) back again and it feels so good after being in hell for so long.

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noddyholder · 15/11/2005 16:13

My dp did all this when we had just met and had no ds.I found the whole AA thing difficult at times but dp used to tell me that it kept him focused on why he had stopped drinking by listening to others stories.It is easy when you have been recently clean to think one drink can't do any harm and AA is a brilliant reminder.

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