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Original poster

I received a text in error

39 replies

iMum · 03/06/2011 18:39

Basically,

I am friends with A&B not the best of friends but we get on very well.

They have had their ups and downs and blips along the way as we all do.

I just received this

hi iMum Its ?. I just wanted to see if you are ok, Iknow you are with ?? and he is a lovely man I thought I would see all the same.

Now I just thought it was an odd new style fishing type text but then B phones me in complete panic, asks me to delete the message and some half cocked story about it being for this other person and he was just checking up that they were ok etc etc, he sounded very paniced.

So this puts me in an odd spot.

OP posts:
itsohsoquiet · 03/06/2011 19:08

How do you know he meant it in that way? Is what you typed in the OP exactly the same as the text you got?

Kitsilano · 03/06/2011 19:09

BluddyMoFo - LOL! Love it

TheOriginalFAB · 03/06/2011 19:11
Biscuit
itsohsoquiet · 03/06/2011 19:11

If that is the text exactly as you received it then it's not absolute proof so I wouldn't do anything. But I'm inclined to believe he is feeling guilty if he is wanting you to delete it.

LoopyLoopsBettyBoops · 03/06/2011 19:12

It's the way you tell 'em! Grin

Seriously though, I don't get it.

BitOfFun · 03/06/2011 19:12

Is that how easy it is to start an affair with your wife's cousin? A measly ambiguous text? What happened to, er, having the decency to adulterously proposition somebody face-to-face?

Original poster
iMum · 03/06/2011 19:13

The text is word for word baring name omissions. tbh It of course isnt proof of anything but it is odd and combined with my knowledge of their past "problems" its concerning-doubly so when I consider how guilty and panicked he sounded when asking me to delete it

OP posts:
Jaspants · 03/06/2011 19:58

See I would read that text as cousin-with-same-name-as-Imum has been having a rough time of it and Mr B is saying "wanted to see if you're ok, I know you have got with but guessing that past stuff still hurts"

frazzle26 · 03/06/2011 22:15

When he says "with" are we to take that to mean "in a relationship with"? That was the part I couldn't get my head around at first because when I first read it I thought the "with" meant they were just "with" each other as if one had gone to visit the other say for a cup of tea lol!!

BluddyMoFo · 03/06/2011 22:39

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Amateurish · 03/06/2011 23:12

It reads to me that he made a proposition to this other woman and she turned him down. This confirmed by his subsequent panic.

"I thought I would see [about the two of us getting together] all the same..."

Obviously nothing that would stand up in court!

Omigawd · 03/06/2011 23:48

Once had a text from an acquaintance's DH telling me what he was going to do with me in bed...wasn't meant for me - but I disdn't think it was for her either. I chickened out and kept quiet at the time. They divorced some time after.

jasper · 03/06/2011 23:49

leave it

VivaLeBeaver · 03/06/2011 23:58

Maybe he is worried about his wife's cousin. Maybe something has happened that you don't know about and he's checking she's ok even though he says her partner will probably be looking after her?

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