My mum has recently moved to wales from scotland. Leaving her house, job family and my 2 ds (her only gc). She met a widower on the internet and they got married just over a month ago. She left my sister and I in the care of our dad when we were 13 and 18 respectively. I took over the head of the house role as my dad was a mess and couldnt work. She had been having an affair for a year and long story short she had disappeared for a week prior to the separation and we thought she was dead only to turn up and tell us she was leaving us all.
fast forward 12 years and she has met someone else and married him and moved to the other end of the country.(7 hours away) Before she left she had quite a well paid job and a council house with little rent. All of which my sister and I helped her get. She insisted she could not live in her house any longer as she didnt like the area, when i found her an alternative she said she didnt want to move. She said she couldnt afford to live on her wages and was struggling for money(my sister and I have both loaned her money due to this).
She then met this new husband(who is an arse but thats besides the point) and she basically decided that she was going to marry him and move to wales, move into his house and that he would support her financially. She dressed it up so she was in love and all that stuff as well.
After the wedding I found out that my dad had cashed in his pension last year and she had received over £19000 from it by cheque. i was gobsmacked and now feel that she has lied through her teeth about everything. She persistently lies about everything..she told my uncles friend she was having a small wedding but my gran and her sisters would all be there,(there was only my sister and i at the wedding) She lies about the stupidest things as well as these bombshells that appear every couple of years.
I want her to be happy but she lives the life of Walter Mitty and I dont feel i trust her anymore.
She has phoned about 4 times since she has left and every time she calls I have nothing to say to her and I can barely be civil let alone nice. I just feel she is a user and I don't really think I want to speak to her..although I dont want to never speak to her again.
Do I confront her about these lies? I feel like a fraud in letting her emotionally control me with her pity and her "poor me" scenarios but I cannot continue like this. I feel like this has just stirred up old feelings of what happened the last time. I want to be free of this.. what would you do? Sorry long post