who supports sahm ex hubby or lover

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Interested to know what happens if a sahm has an affair and breaks up the marriage.
Does she get to have weekends off while kids are with ex-h with her activities paid for by ex-h.
I always wondered if this was the case or not,is there something im not getting.

Ex h does not pay for 'activities'. He pays money for the childrens upkeep.

Why would your ex have to pay for your activities with your lover? Or am I missing something??

huh? pay for your own

Well, the reason for the breakup of the marriage is not relevant when deciding what the capital split is, nor whether she will get spousal maintenance.

Child mtce is a separate issue.

If the children are school age the wife will normally be expected to be working at least part time, generally speaking.

I don't think the OP is talking about herself.

XH pays maintenance for the children. If XH wants weekend visits then that will be arranged by mutual agreement or courts.

The ins and outs of whether the mother behaved badly, or the father behaved badly are irrelevant to access (unless DV is involved) and maintenance payments. HTH

ExH pays to support the children.
Food.
Clothes.
A roof over their heads etc

His money also supports ExW as she has the children living with her and this enables him to continue at work.

He could ask to have the children live with him and the ExW would have to work to support her children.

The wording suggests to me that the OP is coming from the point of view of the XH, or present partner of same.

As I understand it - though mind you I have no legal training - the courts aren't bothered whose fault it is the marriage broke up except in extreme cases (affairs are not nearly extreme enough). Any spousal maintenance would be decided on the basis of the home-based parent's need and the earning parent's ability to pay, not on the grounds of who behaved better, and I think is usually awarded for a limited period only to allow the SAHP to make arrangements to support her/himself.

There are absolutely masses of resources on the internet discussing how this works legally. Try this one for a start.

Ex should support the children, why should he support Ex-wifes activities with her lover?

Define "supporting ex-wife's activities". If the court has assessed spousal maintenance is payable, it doesn't matter whether the woman becomes a nun or entertains the Brigade of Guards twice nightly, she still needs something to eat and a roof over her head. I can quite understand the XH being miffed, of course.

Spousal support does not exist in the UK. She gets income support if she does not work and father pays money for children.

if a woman has sacrificed her career and is not working to look after children yes she should receive money. unless the suggestion is sahms are some sort of chattel

"spousal support does not exist in the UK"? Where on earth did you get that idea?

He may have to pay money towards morgage but this is taken into consideration when paying child support. Anyhow just cause a person gives up working does not mean they are not able to ever work again just because they have children.

Again, sorry facefull, I'm sure you're trying to help, but the information you are posting is not factually correct. Child maintenance is NOT calculated with reference to the NRP paying the PWC's mortgage.

OP, if you need any more info, try posting on Legal.

Its called a 'variation' Mumble and csa payments can be adjusted to take into consideration morgage, loans or insurance that the pwc is benefiting from. They wont take it into consideration unless you ask cause they are all useless so an so's at the csa.

It's extremely unlikely, ime, that the mortgage would be taken into account in CSA calculations whether using the variation mechanisms or not.

Spousal maintenance, on the other hand is very much alive and kicking.

Spousal maintenance does exist in the U.K.

And if he pays child maintenance, spousal maintenance, loses his house, sees his children every-other-weekend and sees the new man sitting in his former frontroom In his former chair, and in the garden mowing his former lawn he should accept it.

(happened to a friend of mine)