This is not a major relationship problem but I do think I could handle things better. Our DS (2) has some minor health issues, which have involved surgery in the past, which has been pretty worrying. That said, it's always been very likely that he will be fine -- or that, if not 100% fine, that he will not have any problems that will affect his life radically. Post-surgery it has just transpired that not everything is completely resolved.
I've addressed this with DH and he has gone into a slough of despond and gloom. He tries to hide his sadness, but it's obvious. I'm sympathetic, but I feel as if I am always the one in the relationship saying 'It's not the end of the world', 'We'll deal with it', 'Thank goodness we have such a lovely, healthy, happy little boy'. My reason for being upbeat is the fact that a) we are really in a very good situation - as I said, health concerns are relatively minor and b) it's, in my opinion, crucial for our little DS. But perhaps I'm being annoying. As it is I feel inwardly ground down by having to be strong and optimistic.
Tonight, it's like a cloud has descended upon the house around DH. I feel as if unless DS has a state of completely 'perfect' health (whatever that is) then gloom will reign. Any advice gratefully received....