DH and I have been together for 22 years. Married for 15. We have three kids (11, 7, 4). Life is a drag. We both work full time in demanding jobs. We juggle childcare to accommodate our middle child who has a chronic condition ? he gets tired very easily, so we don?t want to send him to afterschool care. We have no family nearby and no real support with the children. We get up before 5 every day. I often don?t get to bed until after 11 (with home and work commitments). I feel like I live my life in warp speed, too afraid to take a deep breath and relax because every time I do, it all falls apart.
Most upsetting is that DH and I are falling further and further apart. I resent him because I feel that at least he gets to mentally switch off and I don?t. I feel as if I am consumed by my homework/chores/work and if not actually doing something, I have to be thinking 10 steps ahead to keep up with everything. DH is great with the kids, he washes dishes, cooks, irons, cleans but he doesn?t remember events, do the bills, plan parties, organise costumes for kids plays (basically all those ad-hoc things which take up a lot of time and effort).
How do you those of you with a larger family and no support do it? How do you cope with work and all of the demands of a reasonably young family? What do you do to keep your marriage on track?