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DH is so uptight, grumpy and stressed out - its doing my head in and I do not think it is fair on me and our 3 DC's - AIBU ?

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josben · 29/05/2011 22:08

Can anyone help me on what i can or should do to make things better - there are are a few factors that has contributed to things being so bad. sorry if i ramble on...

DH got made redundant last year, he got another job after only 6 weeks out of work but he finds his current job very stressful and is usually quite negative about it.

His mum is very ill with cancer, she has had it for the last 4 years but has been bed bound over the last 6 months which is just awful, we amke sure that we go over and see her and his dad frequently.

We do not get on with our neighbours and live in a semi and so he is constantly up tight about our 3 DC's kids making too much noise as we have had problems from our neighbours about that in the past. We never entertain anymore as he cannot relax in case it upsets out neighbours! we currently have our house on the market, i am desperate to move...

Then our youngest Dc, DD1 (4 years) has got learning difficulties, school and the paediatrician think that she is poss on the autism spectrum.... but I cannot talk to him about this in case it tips him over the edge.

thank you for reading this far (if you have!) it helps to just put it down on paper. TIA

OP posts:
WriterofDreams · 29/05/2011 22:32

Do you think he's depressed?

FabbyChic · 29/05/2011 22:52

Does he do anything at all to alleviate his stress levels? Have a hobby? Chill out playing Xbox anything?

He needs something to take his mind off the stress of every day life, we all do to some extent.

Checkmate · 30/05/2011 01:28

What are you worried about happening if you talk to him about your Dds possible diagnosis?

argghh · 30/05/2011 07:52

That sounds like a lot to be stressed about.

I understand what you mean about it helping getting it down on paper.

I dont know what advise to give but moving house is very stressful, work sounds very stressful and his mothers illness must be awful.
But none if this is your fault and youarehaving to bear the brunt of it. Any chance you two could get away for a day on your own and try and talk through this ?

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