How do I deal with a woman who's about to become the OW?

[Bennifer]

A good friend of mine is on the verge of becoming the OW. Her friend is a "good guy", who's been married for years, but his wife won't sleep with him, he can't divorce her, "he'd leave her if he could" (they don't have children), but as they have a business together and live in a small town, it'd be impossible to get a divorce. The man's wife is supposedly ill which makes things "even more difficult".

Currently my friend is sex-texting this man and conducting and conducting an EA, and although "it sounds bad", "he's a good man".

The whole thing is straight out of the cheater's playbook. How do I makke her see sense?

A fannyrat has been trying to set me up as his bit on the side for years. There have been phases when I felt exactly the same about him as your friend, that sort of attention is addictive and he is a 'good guy' everyone loves him etc

If I needed a quick spine stiffening I always read some of the OW threads on mumsnet I found they did wonders for my moral compass and made me determined not to follow through on the EA (and to end it) and if he really cared and he really was a 'good guy' then he would be able to explain to his current partner that he wanted to leave their relationship

It has taken me a while but I'm fed up the sight of him now especially as he lurks like a puppy round my door (at work) but I'm still addicted to my dose of mumsnet.... oh god it will have to be match.com

So suggest to your friend she checks out mumsnet and reads some of the OW threads is my advice (maybe get this one deleted first!!) Some of them can really hit home and make you think about what your are getting into

SGB, genius post