hello is anyone in there

[iseeyou]

i read so many posts on here and see the same flow; after reading the reponses many of the OPs seem to have a LIGHTBULB MOMENT and think oh yeah he is a pig/ wife beater/ rapist etc etc. i didnt think of that before. i didnt realised he raped me. i find a lot of the threads go the same way. it is very disturbing. Do I live in a country with a nation of women who are walking around asleep!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Of course they're fragile with low self-esteem.
As I've already said:
When your confidence has been steadily eroded and no-else seems to think there's much wrong, it's all too easy to conclude this is the best it gets and you may as well put up with it. It's not so much that they're asleep, more that no-one's listening. This forum provides a too-rare voice of reason; it can and does help abused women see they deserve better and there is another way.

This business of not wanting to "upset" a woman who's being ground into insignificance by her relationship is a common excuse for doing nothing to help her.

Has it not occurred to you that a good man, whose partner is fragile, would take extra care of her? If he's treating her unfairly and/or taking advantage of her fragility, should she not be supported in acknowledging that he's making her feel worse?