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Crush on colleague - tell me I'm not the only this happens to?

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oohwhattodo · 20/05/2011 19:26

I have to confess, I have developed a raging crush on a colleague of mine. We work very closely together, for long hours and we are often asked to attend marketing functions together which involve a lot of drinking and/or spending time away from home. He's more senior that me, but we have a working relationship that places us more as equals working as a team. I have been married to my husband for 18 months and we're very happy. To complicate matters further, my husband works at the same organisation as me and the colleague.

A few months ago, I thought it had all blown over, but the other night I had one of those dreams about him and it brought it all flooding back.

Tell me this is just a silly phase, I am not the only one this happens to and it will all blow over after a while? To be clear, the colleague has done absolutely nothing to encourage my affections other than being a generally nice guy. He has two kids and a wife he obviously adores. I have no intention of making a fool of myself or hurting my husband by acting on any of this, but it's getting quite distracting.

OP posts:
foxinsocks · 20/05/2011 19:29

wank fodder

and leave it at that

nowt wrong with crushes. Just don't let it progress any further.

Emo76 · 20/05/2011 20:00

Stay away from the booze when you are around him in case you suddenly decide to share these feelings!!

helloelle · 20/05/2011 20:28

I've had a very distracting crush on my personal trainer for about a year now, he has just changed jobs and said I was the biggest reason why he hadn't changed earlier. I too am married and I have a daughter. He is way younger than me too which I am quite ashamed of.
I'm glad in a way that he is moving as I was imagining loads of different scenarios where we would end up in bed together and I really don't want to destroy my family.
I know how you feel, it can't end well, I'm heartbroken already (and have cried) that I won't see him everyday anymore and nothing happened between us (he is also just being a nice guy I think).

Can you put some distance between the two of you?

lookingfoxy · 20/05/2011 20:34

I am guaranteed to get a crush on any male where I work if I spend any decent amount of time for them.
For me it just livens up what could be an otherwise boring day.
As long as it stays where it is (in your head) just enjoy.

Anniegetyourgun · 20/05/2011 21:07

Good lord yes, it's extremely common! Why I remember the guy who... oh yes, and that other one... and then there was... yes, I've had my share Blush You got 'ormones, husband isn't there, other guy is, 'ormones will misbehave. It's one of those things. As everyone's saying, as long as you don't do anything about it there's no harm. You can't help how you feel, but you can help what you do.

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