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Dont know what to do

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hooked · 20/05/2011 11:03

Lurker and Namechanger..

Bit of backround, been with my dp for about 8 years and have 2 ds's aged 6 and 3.

Me and dp seem to have some problems and I cant seem to pick myself up and move on with dp (we had a miscarriage over a year ago and hit us both hard)

Dp isnt a talker and dosnt show his emotions, while im the complete opposite and like to talk and show emotions.

I feel like we have grown apart, or more maybe iv grown apart from him? Iv been with dp since I was 18 and he was my 1st serious boyfriend. im now 27.

I know dp loves me and he'd be devestated if I left him.

The last few weeks we'v been having problems and I think we both know a split is on the cards :( ... His mother then calls him to arrnage for us to go and visit her for a 'holiday' (she knows nothing about whats going on, and she lives in france)

I tell dp that timing is all wrong and he should put her off, eventually he dosent and goes ahead and lets her book the ferrie (his mum is paying for everything)

she is looking forward to seeing us all and I cant back out of this now. We are leaving in just over a week!!

I dunno what to do, I know shes gonna talk about us gettin married etc and I know dp will act as though everything is fine.

My head fells a mess and i dunno what to do.

I know iv probably made no sense but i feel better now iv written it down!

OP posts:
freeandhappy · 20/05/2011 12:13

That's sad and sounds like he doesn't know how to acknowledge that there is a problem and deal with it but just wants things to be ok. not a bad guy but inadequate in this situation. do you think you might be a bit depressed after the miscarriage? i was v down in the dumps after a mc and felt pretty isolated. could you talk to your doctor? what was your relationship like before that happened. you are young, things can go up and down in relationships. can you confide in his mum when you are on holidays and maybe she can help?

TheOriginalFAB · 20/05/2011 12:15

I suggest he goes alone and see if time apart from each other crystalises your feelings.

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