I have a schoolgirl crush...

[NotANaturalGeordie]

A couple of months ago I started attending kickboxing classes. I have lost weight, am feeling fitter with more energy, all that jazz.

Then a new guy started at the class. I don't know his name, have never spoken to him but every time I look at him I get all hot under the collar (iyswim). He is at three out of four of my weekly sessions, plus he takes a little boy to my little girl's class so I also see him there 4 times a week.

I am happily married, I have no desire to flirt or anything but I can't seem to stop thinking about him, and i see him almost every day. I am thinking more about him than my husband .

Advice please - do I start talking to him in the hope that he will turn out to be not very nice, or do i continue to ignore him (which, as i am usually a chatty person is starting to become obvious)?

Change classes

Acknowledge it, accept it, but do nothing. There's no need for you to strike up any kind of chatty relationship with him and if you think you won't be able to control yourself - don't risk it. A polite nod when you see him will do.

Dont do anything. It really is not worth the risk.

sounds a bit like reading one of Nigella's books while on a diet :) There's nothing we can do about that kind of attraction, but we can control what we do about it. He's your diet coke man - enjoy the view but do nothing :-)

Enjoy the view and don't embarrass yourself.

We had a young student working for us last year that made me come over all peculiar. I just appreciated the fact that he made the workplace more attractive. I would NEVER have done anything about it.

Just enjoy a litle fantasy

but watch the signals you give out, and do not even think of taking it further

there is nothing wrong with window-shopping

could you tell your DH you have a little crush, it may take the illicitness out of it (and make you feel a bit silly, which is ok, actually)....do you have that kind of relationship ?

Definitely don't do anything about it and it will go away eventually!

I did something about mine and it's all gone horribly wrong and if I think about it too much I could literally die of embarrassment!

Thanks for the advice. The two RL friends I have confided in said to talk to him but I think you are all right.

Unfortunately I cannot change classes as these are the ones that fit in around my other commitments (that cannot be changed).

I wish I could tell my DH but he has been known to be a little jealous (ex-wife cheated on him ).

Thanks for the warning HorridWoman, and yes AF I will regard it as window shopping only .