Have called police on ex

[OhWesternWind]

Had a bad day with ex yesterday, four phone calls on my mobile, ten texts, a call to my work phone and two e-mails all between 11 and 3. Then when I got home I found he had been in the house (I know for a fact as he had left something there). I have finally given in and called the police about this and they have spoken to him and warned him that if he does this again he could be arrested.

I am thinking of phoning solicitor today re an injunction but don't know if this is overkill.

I feel really really awful about this and never thought that my life would turn out like this with the police getting involved (although I have had them round before about DV issues which also took a lot out of me). I feel really ashamed, don't know why as obviously it's not me that is behaving like a numpty, but I do. It's really upset me.

Today is my daughter's birthday so I have to be all cheerful and positive whilst inside I just feel terrible.

Phone a solicitor. If you are being harassed to this extent, and someone coming in your house while you are out, then it is not overkill, it is getting the message across that you will not tolerate his behaviour.

Hope you and your daughter enjoy her birthday, dont let him spoil it. :)

I'm in a similar situation.
Have an abusive ex, threats to kill etc.

I don't know what to do and have a solicitor appointment for monday re an injunction. But I'm really doubting myself. Although I know that because I've had this abuse for so long and its always my fault, which I'm guessing is making it hard for me to see what really is acceotable and what's not.

I also thought I'd never be in this position.

Do it and do it now..i had an injunction on my abusive ex and it was the best thing i ever did.
It gives them the firm message that they can't do this to you anymore while giving you the peace of mind you so desperatly need. It's not overkill and don't worry that your been unreasonable because your not.

Do report it. I went down to the police with my phone and showed them the texts I'd been receiving. There were about twenty texts in the space of two hours, and most of them at 3 am ish!!! I feel that it showed that he (my x) was capable of losing the plot). It was some comfort to see the garda's eyes popping slightly as he scrolled through the insane texts. There was a text that said "PS and you have a massive spot on your chin you are so ugly" and the garda couldn't help but laugh. "NICE guy ey?" They made a note of it on file that he'd been sending ridiculous abusive texts. I just like to know that no matter what he might do in the future there is at least one record of him having lost the plot and showing his true colours.
Sending me crazy texts was not even the tip of the iceberg. That was four years ago.

He's been violent to me and the children in the past and particularly the children. I am frightened about him coming in the house.

I am in the (long drawn out) process of buying him out of the house but at the moment he is refusing to give me the keys back so potentially he could come in the house in the middle of the night and do god knows what.

It has really frightened me with him coming into the house. The texts and stuff I do not like but can deal with, but the thought of him having crossed that line and definitely (I have suspected previously but have no proof) having come in the house and moreover wanted me to know he has been there by leaving something is really creeping me out.

Oh God help me I cannot deal with all this any more but there is no end in sight and things are just escalating every day because of his twattery.

Can you get bolts fitted so that at least when you're in the house you know he can't get in in the middle of the night?

If you can afford it, send off for something like this They are door wedges that make a noise if the door is opened. (Sorry, don't know why the link didn't work.)

I'd get bolts for all external doors and one of the wedges for all internal doors.

How horrible. You must go to a solicitor - it's outrageous that he feels free to come into your home like that.

Oh it did work, just not in preview.