Hi, I would really appreciate some advice or stories from people about preventing the same patterns occuring even after separating. My XP moved out a couple of months ago. He sees our kids twice a week. They are early teens and have struggled to come to terms with the way he has dealt with this whole situation which appears to be all about him him him.
He is now moving an hours drive away and wants to "talk" about having the kids more often. Yet again I feel like he is calling the shots - planning the move etc and then wanting me to co-operate with his situation in order to fit in with what he wants. We still have unresolved financial and practical matter which he does "when he can". I want to get things sorted out before changing any plans as I think its important for us and for the kids. I've told him that but it doesnt seem to go in....he'll do what he wants to do in his own good time.
I am seriously thinking of moving away and making a fresh start on my own terms because I am sick of feeling undermined. Any ideas??? Thanks!