How much is enough? How often do you get down to some rumpy pumpy?

[middleagedblonde]

Once a week? 3 times a week? What is the average?

i dont think there is a true average as its down to soooo many factors, kids, work , tired etc
And then my DH works away month on /off, to be honest when hes back initially once a night for about 4 nights then every other, for another week then it sort of tails off to 2 -3 x a week. I personally think quality overrides quantity and if youre talked into it as you have not had any for ages your hearts not in it and spoils it. As you get older you need to be a bit more inventive(nothing weird) that sounds a bit dodgy but take a trip to ann summers together or get a night away. x

i'd say at least once every lunar cycle :)

Why are you asking middleagedblonde [nosey cow emoticon]

I'd say the ideal is 3 times a week. If you're doing it more than that your doing very well. I'm not doing it more than a couple of times a month, if that. I swear moths fly out of my nickers when we finally get down to it...

Well, because my DH always wants more, more, more! So, I thought I would ask! Can't ask friends - I'll bet they will all tell tales. So, thought the answers would be more 'real' on here!!

If I was doing it only twice a month my DH would be exceedingly grumpy, and would probably threaten to leave me! I just don't seem to feel the need for it any more - am I odd? Should I be taking something to liven up!!??
MooMoo?

Did you hear the song on the radio this morning, More more more, how do you like it, how do you like it, more more more.......one hit wonder! Sorry, just thinking aloud!

I think as you get older its all about spicing it up abit. Im normally so tired and dont really have a lot of interest but its a bit like winding up an old fashioned car to get it going! Once im in the right frame of mind theres no stopping me ! ha ha

I think the problem could be that the less you do it, the less you miss it. I sometimes don't feel up for it, but if I go with the flow I do then get into it and then I'm usually switched on again for a while - at least until children/work/being on the blob hassles get in the way again! (sorry if TMI!).

And I may be really badly over-generalising here, but IME, men are always up for it, whereas with women if they're tired, not well, whatever, the urge can go.

I don't know if there's anything you can take (or you're maybe joking?) but I would just go with it, even if you're not gagging for it, and see where it leads you. IME, the more you do it, the more you want to....

And BTW I hope you weren't serious about your H threatening to leave you?

MooMoo..if only you were right. My DH is never, ever up for it. We go years, literally,without sex.

Years? Sorry but very personal question you don't have to answer (obviously) - do you think he just has no libido, or does he have another 'outlet' (ie, his hand) . What I'm getting at is, do you think there are other underlying problems between you that mean sex doesn't happen, or is he just not interested in it?

Do you talk about it or is it a taboo subject?

I agree jinjan I think at least once a mnth

Um - less than once a month, more than once a year....

I think I have problems actually, though. In fact I know I do, but I just haven't got around to sorting it all out. My poor dh is very tolerant though.

And in answer to your question - I've always heard that the 'average' is about two or three times a week. Personally though I think that's probably poo - I know sooooooo many people who say they hardly ever do. I don't know what my average is - sometimes we'll be at it every day for a week or so, particularly if the sun is shining then we'll sometimes go a week without if it's messy week (sorry ).

PS or if I'm in a huff about something

atm never. :( lol.

usually thou when DP is around it's 3-4 times a week, if not more, I am however 26 weeks pg, will be at least 30 by the time he's home again so quite possibly he might not have his wicked way until after xmas. :o

tbh though I usually like at least twice a week otherwise it feels like we're having to book it in. the more the better.

liven up - sexy undies (althou matching can work just as well) toys if your both that way inclined, body paints, oils.

I think DP would like it twice a day every day if he could but that's not possible - and to be fair if he tried i'd get upset.

mine's tolerant too no matter HOW many times I tell him that I cant get turned on simply by him having an erection and that I like it when he does x yand z to me, he still cant be bothered so neither can I. Shame really but me and power shower get along just fine

I think what everyone is saying si true the less you do it the less you miss it. It does take a bit of effort but is worth it and when my DH gets more I get more shoes!!lol xx