Separation and child contact-XH living with OW-

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My situation is that following some years of being threatened & neglected-DH prefered porn to a real relationship,he started an affair just after Xmas. Yes it involved Facebook -lots of late night texting.I discovered it, went to solicitor got things straight that it was true etc then outed him after giving him several chances to talk/ fess up-as if he would.
He left 2 months ago to live with the OW- a friend of a so called 'family friend' who got them together.
Now he expects that my teenager will be staying with them-He ran away to live with OW- who as Ive read all the emails etc was cheerleading him to leave.
Angry doesnt even come ito it-Im ragingly fing furious!
However ive kept that away from my kids.
He agreed not to intro the we but did so the first time my kid went to see him at a relatives home though ive stopped the kid going to her house pro tem.
Hes using my kid against me as the kid is saying stuff about me & my mental health.I did get signed off with stress at the time.
Any advice mums?
I dont know this woman-she helped break up my marriage though it was his choice to go but he got in deep v quickly
what man leaves his kids & wife for someone hes known for 6 weeks?

theyve spent more time together since he left than when they were chearting on us in the marriage!
still im focusing on the ££££££££££££££££££££££££

how do I deal with child going to stay there?
i reckon they'll buy the childs affection.
Its shit

it'll be good to hear what you think..

you will just have to leave them all to it.....teenagers,can vote with their feet and you will only force them all together if you make a big fuss.

sorry,but theres not a great deal you can do,and actually,theres nothing LEGAL that you can do to stop this

Hi OP, this is a really difficult situation and I'm so sorry you are going throught it :(
Of course as tiff says teenagers can vote with their feet and thats the harsh reality, but if I was you I would try and direct your efforts into your relationship with your DC. Its important for teenagers to know things aren't ok, but also try and vent here or at RL friends. And try and get as much support and advice as you can.
How old is your DC?
The whole relationship sounds like it has the potential to crumble as it sounds like its not exactly based on a solid foundation....
Do the best you can do, be the best you can be and take heart from it.
If your DC did decide to try living there, its likely that would change again anyway. Teenagers are hard animals to contend with at the best of times :o
Focus on getting through this and building a life with love and respect. All kids come around to understanding this at some point.
How are you doing today?

If you havent already, check out this thread, it might help! x
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/1206107-My-teenage-daughter-has-gone-to-live-with-my-narcisstic-X

Sorry, when I was talking about the relationship crumbling I meant the one of your XH not you and DC.
Just realised how that read back