Childcare bs work chestnut. Help me talk rationally and without a breadknife.

[messybessie]

Help

I have an ongoing battle with DH over childcare.

His view is that he CAN'T be responsible for the children due to his work commitments. I see it that he won't.

He works full time, involving a lot of driving. I work part-time, freelance, mostly from home.

I gave up my employed position because I wanted to be around more. I wanted to do the school run etc. Most of the time it works fine. DH has breakfast with them while I get ready, then he gets ready and leaves while I take them to school.

However SOMETIMES I have work commitments which means it would really help if he could do the school run, if I have a meeting etc. But he won't. Even when he's working from home .

This morning I had to catch a train and he wouldn't even help me put the kids in the car because he was 'already at work'

This evening I am late back and my sister has to pick them up from the childminder as 'he can't guarantee he'll be back'

Whenever we talk about it it turns into a row.

Help.

My DP is exactly like this! I understand exactly where you're coming from and think he should take on at least some responsibility even if he doesn't see it as his job. For one thing, it would free up your own time to do something you want, or work more efficiently. He gets things all his own way, no questions asked!

In my experience, a man like this will never change. His life is about him, not you.