I want to be loved

[kaleidoscope12]

Just feeling a bit low at the moment.
Been single a couple of years now.
Have good friends, keep fairly busy, have a pretty decent social life.

BUT I still crave someone special in my life. I want someone to hold, someone to talk to at night. I want affection from someone who cares about me.

I know that's a romanticized version of a relationship, but I still want it,smelly socks, snoring and all.

I do get interest from men when I go out but it's not really the type of interest I'm after. I'm starting to feel as though I am good enough for a snog/shag (not that they get it but that's all they're after) but not good enough to be loved.

I don't think I give off desperate vibes, until recently I wouldn't have even wanted to be with anyone. I don't go out looking for men but to have fun with my friends. I don't want just anyone but I do want to find someone right for me.

Is that wrong?

No it isn't wrong. Have you tried internet dating? Maybe that is the way to go.

I tried internet dating for a bit but didn't really get on with it tbh. It frightens me really I suppose.

so not wrong. I think everybody wants to be loved. And especially by someone who has chosen you for you, rather than your family who will probably love you no matter what.

I'm in the same position as you and would love the same thing. Trying to avoid internet dating, but suspect it might come down to that eventually. It's wrong to need a man, but not wrong to want one!

Try and keep positive though and remember that a lot of people in relationships are not particularly happy either!!!

It makes me feel so lonely sometimes.

Sometimes I think I should just go out and pull someone just for a bit of physical contact. But that's not what I want really and I suspect it would make me feel worse.

I was single for many years after my husband and I split. I tried internet dating a couple of times but didn't like the idea of it. However, 2 years ago I got fed up of staying in on my own every sat when my son saw his dad and tried again. I met a lovely man and we now live together. So, my advice is don't give up on online - it is scary - but no scarier than meeting someone in a bar or a club or in the supermarket! You can keep chatting online, or on the phone before you decide to meet so you only have to go as far as you feel comfortable. My partner loves me like my husband never did so I'm glad I gave match.com another go x by the way, I'm the fussiest person I know about men!

From a male perspective, I met my fiance through Match.com (2 and a bit years ago......she'd kill me for not knowing EXACTLY! haha) and we have a beautiful 5 month old daughter together so don't be too scared about internet dating because it DOES work and IMHO seems to be the "norm" these days.

It's not wrong to want to be loved (who doesn't!) but just remember to be yourself and you will find someone no problem at all.