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Has anyone ever used a GPS car tracking device to monitor their spouses whereabouts

18 replies

NotSuchASmugMarriedNow · 13/05/2011 23:00

Sad

i've been looking at a few online and they seem to be retailing for £250 or so.

I mean, how else can you know for sure whether your dh is being unfaithful. The only way is to see where they go and then confront them.

So, if anyone has ever used one of these devices, I'd love to know where they got it from and how easy it was to use.

If I don't respond to this thread tonight it's because i've gone to bed heartbroken.

OP posts:
FabbyChic · 13/05/2011 23:02

I don't think spying in any form is a good idea.

chris123456 · 13/05/2011 23:02

Mobile phone tracker would be cheaper

ohmyfucksy · 13/05/2011 23:03

Isn't it illegal?

Tbh if you are this suspicious then you are probably correct. Can you get hold of his mobile/email account?

madonnawhore · 13/05/2011 23:04

What makes you suspicious he's cheating? Why do you think this elaborate method of spying is your only option?

scottishmummy · 13/05/2011 23:14

shame you having hard time.who can support you
whats on your mind.snooping isnt answer
after all what will you do with info obtained?willyou challenge,are you feeling sus

RandyRussian · 13/05/2011 23:21

Try this phone tracker

ohmyfucksy · 13/05/2011 23:26

Oh tres amusant

Thomas1969 · 14/05/2011 05:38

I don't get this idea of playing games with partners. Spying on email, checking her/his texts etc. Let's face it if he is up to something thats a problem no amount of gps tracking will solve. If he isnt up to anything, again the gps wont help. What will help is to ask yourself if you wana be with him, and if you do, then how to discuss the problem that appears to exist with him. Please dont spend your time trying to be smart in catching him out. Its wasted time and energy. (God, where do I get off pretending to b such a know-it-all)

LeMousquetaireAnonyme · 14/05/2011 05:52

I was going to say only Hmm but you sound genuinely Sad.
You have 2 options:
either you are right
either you are paranoid

you will need help with both situations, can you go to anybody in RL who knows you and your DH so will have a better understanding of the situation?

Original poster
NotSuchASmugMarriedNow · 14/05/2011 06:11

thanks everyone, just don't know what to do. I know I am right, I know he is seeing other women but he just keeps lying and denying all the time. I want him to leave but he is staying.

And making my life a living hell.

But that's another thread.

You're right though, it really won't change anything, i already know he's a big fat liar.

OP posts:
Atwaroverscrabble · 14/05/2011 07:10

If you definitely want to end it with him and you need proof that he ia cheating To do so then you are probably better off hiring a private detective....

Might be worth just serving divorce papers and getting the ball rolling though, but take care of yourself and perhaps get some counselling too to see you through this...

NotQuiteCockney · 14/05/2011 07:28

If he's making your life a living hell, then you need to get him out, whatever he's doing or not doing on the side.

Why will having 'proof' (if indeed you end up with proof) make any difference? Surely he can just say 'I had a cup of tea with her' or whatever?

Can you move out? Can you talk to a lawyer to try to get him out?

psisedriteoff · 14/05/2011 08:56

You already know he is having an affair, so can not see how one of these tracking things [not a clue what it is] is going to help

Im assuming it does not have a camera on it, if it did, it would not show them doing anything, at best the result will be he parked in her street IYSWIM

I agree with NQC, move out or get a lawyer to get him out

Free2Be · 14/05/2011 10:18

I can relate with the OP, I was married (separated now) and anything that did come up, I would confront him about it and try to calmly talk about with him. To try and get to the bottom of any issues which may have caused whatever he was doing.
I was genuinely concerned if he wasn't happy about anything.
but then I just got really fed up with trying to be reasonable with an unreasonable tosser.
He was 2 faced and would say and do things behind my back.
I didnt use a tracker, but i did record conversations (ashamed to admit, i would behave like this :() he had with his family, and when he was in the house/car alone.
We all say how we would never do such and such, but the truth is that when you are desperate, you may well do things you wouldnt normally do. :(

It got to the stage where I just had to get to the truth as I was being fed so many lies, it was unbearable. I didnt know what else I could do to get the truth, as I had tried the correct way of doing so. I was abused by him, which affected my belief in myself, and i didnt trust my instincts anymore.

I know what people may say, but it did help me to know the truth and offered me the opportunity to make the decision about what was right for me.

LadyLapsang · 14/05/2011 10:32

I expect you are probably right but you can divorce him for unreasonable behaviour instead of adultery. Regarding getting him to leave the house, that's another matter unless he is being abusive. Don't leave the house yourself if you have children.

ASecretLemonadeDrinker · 14/05/2011 10:34

You won't be able to 'use' any of this evidence, unless you can say X/Y/Z saw him at the place you tracked him at. Whos house is it? Any DC? Why can't you leave?

ASecretLemonadeDrinker · 14/05/2011 10:36

Do you need proof to get a divorce for adultery? I'd imagine most ways of getting proof are illegal, no? Do you know any of the women?

Xales · 14/05/2011 12:06

If you believe your marriage is over why not just divorce. You don't need proof to do so.

Even if you have proof they may not agree to sign papers saying they have been shagging x, y and z so that is no help.

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