I don't understand this, am I being the idiot

[Orchidlady]

I have been urging my DP to see a doctor about for his ED problem for the past 5 months, eventually he went and has been told he has high blood pressure and so cannot be prescribed Viagra until that is dealt with, going for blood tests etc. Fair enough, I am delighted he finally dealing with his problems. The problem is I happened to mention to my mum that has been diagnosed HBP and our sons know because they saw himself testing @ home, I thought it was best to explain so not worry them, explaining that this can be sorted and not to panic. Basically DP has hit the roof, accusing me of talking behind his back, not be able to trust me, making him a laughing stock, WTF!!!!. We have has a huge row and now not speaking, I could understand if I had told everyone about his ED which has been going on for 18 months, but I have never told a sole about this I am really struggling to see what the problem is an why he is reacting like this or am I being an insensitive idiot. He has said I don't know the half of it and now can't tell me as I cannot be trusted!

HIJACK - AnyFucker is that you? Or is AnyF you or are you one and the same?

Sorry for the hijack Orchid

Maybe he is just worried. Maybe he is just hoping it will all go away if no-one else knows about it . Maybe he thinks people will somehow make a connection between one thing and the other. Maybe he just thinks it's no-one else's business.

I use AnyF when at work to bypass the swearing filters

Orchidlady, sounds like he has been told more than he's letting on at the GPs and is transferring it all to you. No doubt the drink is making him paranoid about whispering, but I wonder too if he hasn't been given some harsh truths in the Docs and is delaying having to implement changes.

If anyone should be angry it's you! You stand a very good chance of being widowed and the kids fatherless if he keeps on the way he is. Blood pressure can be controlled, but he has to help himself too, including changing his lifestyle. If it makes him feel better, it's not that he is too young to have it, it's that the doctors are better at diagnosing it than they were in our parents day, they actively check and search for it. Loads of our older relatives would have had it and not known.

Don't stand for this cheek, you have done nothing wrong.

Thanks for all your comments, just confirms that I am not the one with issues. I hve to admit when he first claimed to be shocked that I would tell people he had a HBP I thought it was a joke. Maybe he is getting paranoid, btw for who ever asked I think he was very truthful to the GP about drinking. I think he is really worried, not sure what I should do from here though.

anyfucker that was a joke